Posted by cloudydaze on August 2, 2006, at 15:39:27
In reply to Re: finally..., posted by Deneb on July 30, 2006, at 21:25:47
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> Not me. I would rather the person not say anything to me if they are going to upset me. I don't care if it's tough love, I can't handle it. I like being sheltered.
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> ((((((((shelter))))))))
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> ((((((((Dr. Bob)))))))))
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> Deneb*Let me put it this way....if I was overly sheltered here (and wanted to be), I might expect to be sheltered in real life too, and when things didn't turn out that way, I would end up being more upset.
Over time, I might withdrawl from real life and my only social interaction would be these boards, where I am sheltered.
That scenario could cause a lot more problems than it prevents. It is an unhealthy situation, IMO. It is possible to be supportive, but real (ond not overly sheltering).
How? I am no genius, and I don't have all the answers, but I have made a few suggestions already, and if I think of more, I will surely speak up.
poster:cloudydaze
thread:670602
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