Posted by Dinah on July 30, 2006, at 11:41:49
In reply to Re: finally... » Dinah, posted by laima on July 30, 2006, at 9:33:26
Ok then.
I was distressed by the phrase "real sufferer" as it seemed to me to imply that there are those who really suffer and those who aren't really suffering, and that the distinction can be made by a person's behavior. I think there are real Richard Cory's out there. People who you would never know by looking at them were really suffering. But who are. I don't think Dr. Bob should try to determine who's really suffering and who isn't, because I don't think that Dr. Bob should judge that someone isn't really suffering. How many of us here have had our suffering dismissed as not being "real"?
I was distressed by the term "trivial offenses". There may be times when I don't understand why someone is upset by something that I wouldn't be upset about. There are times when I think that there *must* be some sort of misunderstanding. But I hope I never consider someeone's feeling of offense as "trivial" because that's a value judgement. I don't feel I have any right to decide what's "trivial" in someone's life. People have experiences that make them sensitive to certain things that might be trivial to someone else but are certainly not trivial to them.
Sometimes those things are not uncivil. In which case the poster could try to explain to Dr. Bob why they were offended and why rules should be changed. I think that lately there has been some really good and instructive discussions about triggers and trigger warnings.
But to consider anyone's concern "trivial"... It's not something I would do.
If I misunderstood the uses of "real" or "trivial", I would be happy to find out I was incorrect.
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