Posted by Dinah on April 17, 2006, at 9:32:55
In reply to Re: Civility IRL, productivity and good relationships., posted by special_k on April 16, 2006, at 22:59:19
> but are people feeling hurt...
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> or are people feeling pissed?Does that mean you don't mind the latter? I'm not trying to be confrontative. I'm just really saddened and confused by what's been going on here lately. I just really really don't understand. I just really really am upset by the fact that I don't seem to know Special K at all. I guess I shouldn't be. I should just realize that I need to adjust my mental image of you, or get to know you as Special K. Or maybe even be glad that you are feeling comfortable enough to show more of yourself here. I'll have to work hard on that attitude adjustment.
But in the meantime, I mind the latter as much as I mind the former. Because the goal here is mutual support. And feeling p*ssed off, and thinking that the other poster doesn't mind or even sort of wants to be p*ssing people off doesn't help me to achieve that goal on my end.
I'm not saying that's what you're saying. I'm saying that that's how I hear what you're saying, and if I'm wrong I'd rather have the misunderstanding clarified than to operate on my current understanding.
I got the idea from one of your posts that you think that you tried being "nice" and that didn't work in achieving your goals. And I heard the implication that what you're doing right now is trying another approach.
Do you *really* think that other approach will work? Do you really think that making people angry will bring about your desired change? How do you think that will happen? What would be the sequence of events from people being p*ssed off to greater freedom of speech on the Politics board?
If that's your intent I truly wish to know, so that I will maybe be less discombobulated by the sudden changes in how I percieve you. And again, if I'm mistaken, I'd really like to have my perception corrected.
I have to say that I see a far more probable chain of events that doesn't include your achieving your desired goal, if I'm understanding that goal correctly. And I am regretful if what I foresee comes to pass.
I guess it depends a lot on Dr. Bob and how he interprets things. Although I don't think I ever remembering him changing a rule under those circumstances. Can you remember any times where he has?
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