Posted by special_k on March 21, 2006, at 23:41:51
In reply to Re: blocks » Dr. Bob, posted by henrietta on March 21, 2006, at 19:37:17
hy hen :-)
i think... it is a hard one...
I think... Other 'experts' do have different ideas re civility. Kali Munroe, for instance... And her coming close to being dubbed 'uncivil' when she was here as a guest expert on conflict resolution (spot the irony). I think it is right to say that Dr Bob has something of a fairly idiosyncratic notion of civility... And he might well be stricter than most. But then in terms of the comments people make... Do you think it is fair to say that this board is safer than others in the sense that accusing comments, judging comments, hurtful comments, hateful comments, sarcastic comments are less likely to go unremarked or without consequences.
I mean... Some people might prefer that. But then when someone directs those things our way it can be harder to take...
Maybe the issue is that... He is a little too idiosyncratic / strict with the civility rules?
I might be inclined to agree...
> and attempting to direct behavior into patterns YOU deem positive,
> "healthy", or just plain less troublesome. (Others may disagree with what constitutes healthy or positive behavior.)Yeah...
> You model labeling behavior, then punish others for labeling behavior.
Well... I'm not so sure that works...
Consider a case where someone says (and I'll use me as an example)
you are a bitch special_k and i wish you would just f*ck off.
do you think there should be consequences for someone saying that to me?
if so... then maybe the problem isn't so much the 'uncivil' judgements... the blockings... so much as it is the 'borderline cases' of incivility... and the severity of the blockings...
so...
how does the one week cool off block work?
if the moderators have sympathy???
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