Posted by alexandra_k on July 12, 2005, at 4:43:13
In reply to Re: the next best thing, second try » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 12, 2005, at 4:19:10
> Keeping the discussion open is only helpful if your mind stays equally open. Otherwise, it is just another way of frustrating posters, and in general it would be kinder to say "This is how it will be, and I am not going to change my mind. I hope you can live with my decision, but if not, I'll be sorry to lose you." or something reflective of the reality of the situation. False hope hurts.
(((Dinah)))
I'm sorry you have been and still are hurting over this.I agree about being open minded when having a discussion. Thats something that both sides need to do. There is the possibility of one person coming around to the other way of seeing it - but who comes around could go either way. Or maybe people will reach a comprimise ;-)
With respect to saying something along the lines of 'thats just the way it is and that is an end to it' I'm afraid I would leave if Dr Bob made frequent use of that. Thats just a little too much my mother. I need reasons. I need someone to try to explain their pov to me. I need to try to understand. Its when people won't do that that I struggle.
I guess you can't please all the people all the time...
Lets just wait and see.
Maybe we will bring him around yet.
Maybe he has something to say that will bring us around.
Maybe we can work out a comprimise.
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