Posted by alexandra_k on May 30, 2005, at 22:01:50
In reply to Re: Rescinding a D.N.P request. » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 30, 2005, at 20:41:24
A suggestion:
If you direct a post to me with PBC in the subject header I'll take it as 'please be careful with me'.
And I'll try and do that.
Ok?
I have been thinking....
I wonder if this has a lot to do with me getting caught up in the process of argument (where I fairly much abstract away from the poster)
And forget to validate.
Thats what I wondered may have gone wrong between us before.
That I don't validate enough.
That isn't a comment on you - its a comment on me and my posting style.That people are here for support and that is one thing that I can do to be more supportive. Validate more. It is also a way of taking time to check that my understanding is right. It is also a way of helping you to feel like I am hearing you or at least that I am trying to hear you.
I need loads of validation.
Especially when I am struggling to articulate something.
Or when I feel fragile.
Or who knows why sometimes...
Thats why I came to hate and detest CBT
Because it was so very invalidating I just felt mad and frustrated.I wonder if that is it???????
That was what I meant about maybe we are too much alike.
I don't know.
Maybe I'm just raving...
How about I stop talking about it and try and do it and we'll just see how things go.
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