Posted by 10derHeart on April 11, 2005, at 21:40:23
In reply to Dr. Hsiung: Please deal with this, posted by used2b on April 11, 2005, at 20:12:06
My take on that post was that because Mark made a point to describe it as an "awful joke," he was in no way making fun of sexual abuse. In fact, when someone decides to mention hearing a joke of this sort to me, but first *warns* me it's *awful* (or another synonym for awful) I always give the benefit of the doubt that they do NOT think said joke is at all funny - thus the need for the warning.
Of course, I suppose Mark could have chosen not to post any reference to the joke at all - in an abundance of caution. Because I do see how a person could be upset just by reading it, and perhaps this is the case here.
In my opinion, Mark H. would NEVER "make fun" of sexual abuse. Never. Knowing Mark's reputation in this community, intent could be a very important factor in this being deemed uncivil or not.
I can't see how it would violate the rules here for you to tell Mark H. this post made you feel put down, or however you'd phrase it, as long as you make a good faith effort to be civil yourself. Posters here have been known to apologize immediately - once they're aware of the negative effect of something they've posted.
In fact, I'm pretty sure Dr. Bob encourages this kind of dialog between posters, whenever possible, before he needs to step in...
But, I guess since you asked Mark H. not to post to you any more in another thread, that's not going to be possible. Unfortunate.
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