Posted by Gabbix2 on January 31, 2005, at 0:29:16
In reply to Re: half-cozy, half-gated communities » Fallen4MyT, posted by alexandra_k on January 31, 2005, at 0:06:53
It's rude to have private conversations in front of other people. It is. It doesn't matter if everyone has the opportunity to join a smaller group, in the end the dynamic will be the same. This is not about a picnic in a park, or a cozy room. At a picnic someone could walk by and join in the conversation, in a cozy room if someone walked in, started to speak and was told "sorry you cannot speak to us" it would be considered appalling bad manners. This is nothing more than non verbal bad manners.
I was always taught that when at a party it's insensitive to stay within in a small group,if you're going to stay with a clique you may as well invite your friends to your house. Even in *that* situation though someone could, if confident enough include themselves.
This idea sickens me. I can't think of a Babble issue that has made me this livid. I don't think the boards will thrive even if they are implemented, but I am dissappointed that Dr. Bob would encourage it, trying make it kinder than it is. He's said himself he likes to keep the communication lines between posters open. This seems to contradict that philosophy.
If you want a private cozy room set up a yahoo group.
Those of us who travel the psych circuit have been shut out from enough rooms, enough private conversations, and have been whispered about too much.
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