Posted by Dinah on January 30, 2005, at 21:53:03
In reply to Re: half-cozy, half-gated communities, posted by Dr. Bob on January 30, 2005, at 18:09:47
I really shouldn't discuss this further.
I think those that find the idea distasteful have been clear on why. Babble is hardly a high crime neighborhood, the place isn't full of undesirables, and it's rather rude to assume that there is appeal in keeping the rabble out. It is rude to have private conversations in a public setting. The whole idea is immensely rude on so many levels that my total distaste knows no bounds. It is the epitome of unwelcoming. It is the very opposite of welcoming. It is unwarm, uncharitable, and un-everything I admire.
And it's not what I would have expected from a mental health provider in general, and you in particular, Dr. Bob. I guess another lowering of expectations is in order. Are you really one of those people who find value added in a club by the fact that not everyone is able to participate? To find value added in an address if not just anyone can walk down the street? If not, (and if research is not the goal), why is it so necessary to you that restrictions be part of the solution? Why restrictions of all things?
Do you live in a gated community, Dr. Bob? Do you wish you did? What is so appealing to you about the idea of keeping people out? What do you suppose others might find unappealing about the idea of keeping people out? What assumptions are inbedded in the idea that restrictive boards are attractive? What assumptions are inbedded in the idea that they are repulsive?
Why not leave restrictions off the table and open your mind and heart to other solutions? What is so dear to you about restrictions?
Do you feel intruded upon often in your life?
If you do do it, please do make it private and not public. In fact, please even make the membership rosters private. If something is to be private, it should be completely private. Just allocate some server space and have the whole darn thing a private affair.
It would be immensely less rude.
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