Posted by Larry Hoover on November 22, 2003, at 17:27:41
In reply to Re: offering help, posted by noa on November 22, 2003, at 16:55:42
> I have only read a handful of the messages on this long thread, but I just wanted to say something that may be simplistic and obvious, but how I feel about responding to certain posts or posters basically boils down to this:
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> It is very hard to help someone when they reject help or refuse to get the kind of help they need.
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> I suppose this also means that there may be times when I know I cannot help someone because the kind of help I can offer is either not the right kind of help that they need or is clearly not enough.
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> Further, although it is always hard to know for sure on the internet just how serious or how genuine a person's cry for help is, I know that for myself, if I feel someone has not been honest about this, then I do not feel I can help or continue to interact with that person.If you'll forgive me for tagging onto the end of your fine post....
One of the problems in this Babble environment is that I have no choice about continuing to interact....not really....because I can't do something as obvious as activating a killfile, or blocking the sender from appearing on my computer, or blocking threads once I identify them as troublesome. I'm stuck sharing the environment, even if it is my choice not to do so with a particular individual. The effects propogate outwards like ripples in a pond, whether I like it or not. I don't think I should have to ostracize myself to protect myself from outside instigation, but without Bob's input, that's the only choice I really have.
Lar
poster:Larry Hoover
thread:281008
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