Posted by Larry Hoover on November 22, 2003, at 11:45:08
In reply to Re: BPD, posted by Dinah on November 22, 2003, at 10:12:33
> That's what I was trying to say, Nikki. A label might be useful to understand what someont is feeling. But it shouldn't be used to lump everyone with that label together. There are lots of people with Borderline Personality Disorder on these boards, a lot of recovering people with BPD, and a lot of people like me who've never been diagnosed but certainly have a lot of the internal characteristics, who work really really hard to not let our internal pain cause pain to others.
Ok. My reference was ill advised. I know you know you're not your label. I know you know that a diagnosis is not predictive of behaviour. I hope you know I know that, too.
Are my comments still valid, without any reference to diagnosis?
> It might lead me to have compassion, but I would never ever extend my expectations of behavior to an entire group of people.
Nor did I intend my reference to one behaviour associated with a particular diagnostic category to generalize to all people diagnosed as such.
> (Lar, you've said you have had two people with BPD in your life, and that might influence your views.I am sure it does. Both displayed parasuicide.
> But I could name on this board a number of people who have identified themselves as having or having had BPD who are consistently concerned for the feelings of others and are consistently helpful and supportive. Let's not make it into an us vs. them?
I never meant it to be one.
> And I wouldn't even be sure which side of the stadium to sit on. So let's not do that?)
Ok.
Need we extend our empathy to those practising parasuicidal threats and false reporting, and fail to extend empathy to those who cannot help but bear witness to it?
Lar
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