Posted by Dr. Bob on September 19, 2003, at 18:53:22
In reply to Struggling, posted by Tabitha on September 18, 2003, at 20:33:36
> I had this whole revelation about 'attack and defend' mentality, and how that plays out in my life, and why the impostor event pushed my buttons. I applied my church teachings to it. It was a growth experience, dang it!
Good work, and thanks for sharing that here.
> The odd thing is, after over a year of posting, and never getting a PBC, lately I was feeling like I'd become more supportive. Like before I was just there to have fun, and talk to my favorites, and lately I was really wanting to just give support to everyone, even people I didn't think of as friends. My therapist said it shows I've become more supportive of myself, so I'm feeling more supportive to others.
Maybe it's related to "attack and defend"? I think posts I consider uncivil not infrequently come from wanting to support someone by defending them by attacking someone else. The more seriously you take things, the harder it may be to let something go...
Bob
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