Posted by shar on August 3, 2002, at 2:55:42
In reply to Re: civility, posted by Dr. Bob on August 2, 2002, at 13:10:33
> > I would hope I could do MUCH better than that if my aim was incivility.
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> Did I imply that I thought your aim was incivility?.........No, you implied that I WAS 'incivil' by saying 'please be civil.' Your private thoughts on the matter of whether you believed my aim was incivility were not expressed. Of course, I disagree that I was incivil. And, the logical extension of that thought was that if I was going to be incivil it would be MUCH easier to spot and MUCH more obvious.
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> > Maybe it is part of the fun of hit and run to stir things up and then enjoy the aftermath.
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> Fun like that I wish people would go elsewhere for...
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.........as do I. We are in complete agreement here.> > it seems more mature to let people feel what they feel
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> People are always free to *feel* what they feel.
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........true, true, existentially speaking. It does, however, take a certain amount of maturity on the part of OTHERS to let people be about how they feel, to not harass them over and over about it. Key word, I suppose is "let" as in "allow" or as in "leave people alone" to be in their own spot about an issue, even if it is one that somebody else disapproves of or dislikes or is uncomfortable with or does not understand..........I won't be the next to say I'm leaving, tho at times like this it is tempting.
Shar
> Bob
.........You still have my strong support for the work you do here, and what you offer this community. PB in all its incarnations has saved lives, and kudos to you for that.
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