Posted by Dr. Bob on August 1, 2002, at 9:07:14
In reply to Re: Oh but beardy » beardedlady, posted by shar on August 1, 2002, at 0:11:48
> I did not take something you'd previously said and indicate that you were saying the opposite now, or a different thing now. I did not say "well, one time you said this, and now you're saying that." I find that type of statement so rarely useful in any meaningful way I typically make a point of avoiding it. I see it as an obstacle to an honest exchange of ideas. Of course, an honest exchange of ideas is not always the goal in a conversation.
> I find a difference in writing "when you said that, I felt this" or "when you wrote about that, it reminded me of this experience" versus "one time you said this, but now you're saying a different thing." One more closely approaches dialog than the other.
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down, thanks.
Bob
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