Posted by Dr. Bob on June 25, 2002, at 22:27:53
In reply to Memorial (Re: sar thread...) » Dr. Bob, posted by JonW on June 24, 2002, at 20:44:44
> > I still do plan to have a memorial sort of area.
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> I don't know how to ask this question without seeming insensitive, but I'll try. Do you think a memorial for people who commit suicide is a good idea? Doesn't this glorify this type of thing and so it could result in other people doing it.That has in fact been a concern of mine...
> There are several guidlines that may not be followed if people are allowed to freely post their thoughts about someone's suicide. I'm not saying there shouldn't be a memorial of some sort, but care should be taken to protect this community.
I totally agree. But one thing I should clarify is that my idea was *not* to start a separate suicide board or anything like that, just to collect together some posts by or about her:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020420/msgs/4767.html
Also, Krazy Kat had a good point:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020420/msgs/4816.html
about it being an opportunity to link to resources. Already most of the boards link to the "coping with crisis" folder in Psycho-Babble Tips:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/psycho-babble-tips/links/Coping_with_crisis_001012507973
but it could be highlighted there. And maybe expanded...
Also, there would be room there to remember others besides Sar. So it might not all necessarily relate to suicide. But I'm not aware (thankfully) of anyone else here who has died. But maybe (links to) posts in memory of non-Babblers could be included, too. But maybe then it *should* be a separate board, focused on mourning or loss or grief or something...
Hmm, I did a quick search, and there's some reading I should probably do:
Hollander, Erica Michaels. Cyber community in the valley of the shadow of death. Journal of Loss & Trauma. Vol 6(2) Apr-Jun 2001, 135-146.
Lange, Alfred; van de Ven, Jean-Pierre; Schrieken, Bart; Emmelkamp, Paul M. G. Interapy. Treatment of posttraumatic stress through the Internet: A controlled trial. Journal of Behavior Therapy & Experimental Psychiatry. Vol 32(2) Jun 2001, 73-90.
Dyer, Kirsti A; Thompson, Cole D. Internet use for Web-education on the overlooked areas of grief and loss. Cyberpsychology & Behavior. Vol 3(2) Apr 2000, 255-270.
Gary, Juneau Mahan; Remolino, Linda. Coping with loss and grief through on-line support groups. In: Bloom, John W; Walz, Garry R. (2000). Cybercounseling and cyberlearning: Strategies and resources for the millennium. Alexandria, VA, US: American Counseling Association.
Sofka, Carla J. Social support "internetworks," caskets for sale, and more: Thanatology and the information superhighway. Death Studies. Vol 21(6) Oct-Dec 1997, 553-574.
Bob
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