Posted by Ron Hill on May 26, 2002, at 23:49:41
In reply to Re: sorry to you too mair, posted by dinah yet again on May 26, 2002, at 19:31:34
> i am just a terrible person not worth knowing.
-------------Dinah,
I couldn't disagree more. At the risk of sounding patronizing, may I tell you that I am impressed by who you are as a person? I have read all of your posts on PSB and PSA during the last couple of days. I don't see where you did anything wrong. In fact, you seemed to go out of your way to not return tit for tat.
I don't know you Dinah, so I am reluctant to get too personal for fear of appearing inappropriate. But I'd like to share the following three observations I've made of you while reading your posts for three days. May I share? Thank you.
1. You have a very tender heart and a deep desire for justice. You are not afraid to risk rejection by your peers to stand up for someone that you don't even know but who happens to need an advocate. That takes strength, courage, and compassion. I have respect for you Dinah.
2. When your convictions are stirred, you write with bridled passion and conviction. Your writing is articulate and terse, yet tempered with a caring tone.
3. As a result of your righteous convictions, disagreements and conflicts arise, but conflict seems to bother your intensely. Here's what I mean. When you get involved in an e-mail (posting) exchange that is slightly confrontational in tone, do you continually replay the exchange over and over in you mind? And does the perceived severity of the confrontation escalate with each replay until it feels so intense that it seems best to just accept full blame for the ordeal in order to stop the replay tapes?
Dinah, my take is off at times so please don't be offended if I have missed it on this one. My motive is pure.
Someone that I hold in high regard says that we need to have the heart of a kitten and the hide of a rhinoceros. You've already got the first ingredient, please ask the Lord to give the second.
In my personal life, there have been extended seasons when I wore my emotions on my sleeves. And, at times, I still do. For most of my fifty years of life I just assumed that I was hard wired to be a hypersensitive person. You know, part of my genetic make-up, if you will. However, I now understand that it has a lot more to do with brain chemistry than it does genetics. In other words, with the correct meds, my brain chemistry does not get knocked all out of whack when conflict (or another "crisis") arises. As a result, I am able to let the personal attacts roll off my back like water off a duck (or like darts off a rhino).
Okay, let's review; heart of kitten is good, rhino skin is required, and brain chemistry may affect thickness of rhino skin. I hope you keep posting. Your contributions to the boards are beneficial.
Hey just a head's up. I think Dr. Bob wants us to use only one registered screen name, so you might want to pick one and go with it, or should I say STAY with it since I want you to stay.
-- Ron
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