Posted by Zo on April 4, 2002, at 21:08:34
In reply to Re: good intentions » Krazy Kat , posted by IsoM on April 1, 2002, at 13:38:26
I have an inkling what--or shall I say who-- sparked the recent concern about Negativity and "Attacks." I certainly went over the line in my post to Andyboy. . .but you never really know the Why. Why someone posts the things they do. Since I've been back on the board this spring, I don't recall seeing any *real* attacks such as happened last fall. Maybe someone can point me to a link?
Here's the skinny on my "negative" post. I write a lot on on speaking truth to power as a woman. The night I posted to Andyboy, I was tired, and without realizing it, drifted at a certain point from posting into Writing, which is meant for the general reader.
Of course it reads on the page as if I were talking to Andyboy. . .and of course that is not civil. But I thought you might like to know what was actually going on with this "attacker."
I am guilty of and sorry for going off on one of my rants in the wrong venue, for not attending to the rules and honoring the real person, Andyboy. Writing is largely a matter of Going Into The Flow.
A difficult part of my illness is attending mindfully to that flow. Hard to explain, but I hope my overall record here shows me not to be a "negative" poster.
It is also my hope that a distinction be made between "negative" and "outspoken as a woman." I'm not talking about incivility, of course a post is supposed to be civil. I'm talking about any possible upset that may be stemming from a confusion among women (by and large) about women.
Thinking about the words Negative and Attack used here, I wonder--do they really apply? Or might it be truer to say, Some women feel uncomfortable when others step out of the perceived role of women.
There are those of us who, by nature, don't fit that role, never wanted to, have other fish to fry---who nonetheless know ourselves, even as we challenge established ideas, to be positive non-attackers of persons.
Zo
(Parts of this post previously appeared on Social in somewhat different form.)**Q: why is this funny?
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