Posted by shelliR on March 31, 2002, at 12:02:47
In reply to Re: what's going on, posted by Dr. Bob on March 30, 2002, at 13:49:52
Actually, I also reread the thread and I don't think that what either Zo or Elizabeth said was insulting. (I admit,the eyeroll was unnecessary) I found it a civil response to something that perhaps they (and others) are sensitive to.
All Zoe said was: "One of the rules of civility here is not to post anything that others could take as a put down."
and
Elizabeth pointed out the problem of stereotyping the reactions of someone with this illnesss.
But I don't think either of them was insulting or demeaning to Andy. And I think it would have died there.
On the other hand, I feel that Dinah just fueled a little smoke into a full blown fire when she said,
"Unfortunately, many people appear to have problems with good intentions and take offense where none is meant while offering plenty of offense in return. I don't understand it, but there it is."
This was a direct putdown of Elizabeth and Zo. It basically said that their opinions were prompted by their need to take offense. How can Dinah possibly know what others intent was? And then the battle got bigger and bigger after that. I know that Dinah was trying to be supportive to Andy; but what good does it do if it's at the price of hurting two other people, who I felt were honest, and not trying to be hurtful, just state their opinions.
Anyway, that's when I stopped reading the thread, but I wanted to go on record as saying if too much was made of Andy's post; more was made of Eliz's and Zo's.
Shelli
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