Posted by AMenz on June 1, 2001, at 11:22:57
In reply to Re: Being civil, posted by Dr. Bob on March 29, 2001, at 11:32:39
The board is absolutety wonderful. Nowhere else have I found frank discussion by a very small subsection of the population, i.e., the treatment resistant. It is invaluable.
I would like to offer some feedback. I am concerned at the strong response from administration to dissent couched in terms that are less than civil, to use your term.
I believe it is sometimes difficult for people with emotional disorders to be appropriate socially, specially when expressing dissent.
Expressing dissent in a socially acceptable manner is indeed a tricky social skill that even well people find difficult to master.
Yet it's crucial for the mentally ill to express those feelings that they have that seem to run counter to the experience of others. I think that is almost the gist of the social experience of mental illness, to have feelings and thoughts that do not mesh with those of people who are biochemically normal.
This board could be a wonderful opportunity to offer feedback as to how to couch dissent in better terms so that it will be listened to instead of shunned. It could be a teaching tool.
I appreciate that well indiviuals are people too and react negatively to behavior that is perceived as insulting. I also appreciate the need to keep the site under some control, but I hope you consider my view which is meant in the most respectful manner.
Please let me know your thoughts on this matter.
Thanking you again for the board.
Ali
> > You are underestimating the emotions of people on this board if you think that my reply in question was 'uncivil'. It was not meant to be nor was it taken as such!
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> I didn't mean to imply that you *meant* to be uncivil. And it's not clear to me how you'd know how it was or wasn't taken.
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> > If I cannot refute another's comment in this thread...
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> Different points of view are fine, and in fact encouraged. But that's not the issue here.
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> > (I noticed that you didn't remonstrate this person for their obviously callous remark!?)
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> First, two wrongs don't make a right. Second, how was it obviously callous?
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> > Please, either stop slapping my wrist every time "I" say something not positive in refute of another's comments in same manner; if you can't/won't allow this, then let me know now and I'll look elsewhere for support on this subject.
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> I won't allow comments like the ones I pointed out, for the reasons I gave. If that's not acceptable to you, then maybe it would in fact be a good idea to look elsewhere for support. I can't please everyone all the time.
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> Bob
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