Posted by willow on February 11, 2001, at 1:02:11
In reply to Re: civility and mental health, posted by Dr. Bob on February 10, 2001, at 23:30:28
"I find on this board that often when someone acts in a manner which doesn't fit the "cliques" acceptance that they are reminded to be civil."
I put the word cliques in quotations because it seems to be used here, though it may have not been the best choice.
"Besides, I'm the one who draws the line."
Okay BOSS! :0
"You consider incivility a sign of weakness? I don't, except possibly in the sense of weak impulse control"
Yes I do. As people I think we most want to be social and accepted. (There is the rare hermit!)
"I believe in acceptance and forgiveness, too, but doesn't the line need to be drawn somewhere?"
WHY?
I think where the line needs to be drawn depends on each of our tolerances, and obviously our levels differ. (This makes me wonder if you have children? *Alot of us act like them when we don't get our way*"Safer in what way, and for whom? Maybe being in a "real" community -- or another online one -- wouldn't be such a bad thing."
I don't agree! Perhaps little reminders like: "For example, "I-statements" such as "I felt put down by what you said" tend to be more productive than "you-statements" such as the above." would be more helpful. Don't we all have an obligation to nurture each other including the walking wounded?
WEEPING WILLOW
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