Posted by Dr. Bob on February 10, 2001, at 23:30:28
In reply to What type ..., posted by willow on February 10, 2001, at 22:09:31
> I may be wrong, but isn't mood and personality a big part of mental health? So if Tracey's approach is confrentational, perhaps a symptom of her "illness" shouldn't we show patience and understanding in order to give support?
I tried to show understanding, and letting her know earlier that I thought she had crossed the line was my way of showing patience.
> I find on this board that often when someone acts in a manner which doesn't fit the "cliques" acceptance that they are reminded to be civil.
I wouldn't want to dismiss the feelings of others by considering them a "clique"... If some people are saying they're upset, I assume others are, too, but are holding their tongues -- or just haven't come back. Besides, I'm the one who draws the line.
> For myself I find it annoying when people post that they are going to off themselves. ... To me it would be more in the person's interest to direct them to face the true issues than to just sympathize.
I agree, but it can be hard to be sure (1) what their true issues are and (2) how to "direct" them effectively.
> What type ...
> of community exiles its weak ones? Not mine, thank goodness!
> ACCEPTANCE ... FORGIVENESSYou consider incivility a sign of weakness? I don't, except possibly in the sense of weak impulse control:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20001124/msgs/490.html
I believe in acceptance and forgiveness, too, but doesn't the line need to be drawn somewhere?
> By cutting them off they're going to go into a real community acting out. Isn't this a much safer sounding board?
Safer in what way, and for whom? Maybe being in a "real" community -- or another online one -- wouldn't be such a bad thing.
Bob
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