Posted by floatingbridge on October 16, 2010, at 13:38:16
In reply to Re: depression. questions on meds, symptoms, psycholog » floatingbridge, posted by SLS on October 16, 2010, at 6:53:26
>Are you generally rigid or a perfectionist?
Yes, both, though many people are surprised to find out. I know I was. It's the school of 'If you can't do it perfectly, why try?'
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> It took awhile for me to forgive my parents for their imperfections and the
extent to which their parenting contributed to my mental illness. Of course, I never told them that. It is often easier to afix blame to parents than it is to accept them as being human. Some
can leave a hell of a lot of scars. It can take awhile to accept the scars without blaming, understanding that there is cause-and-effect that cannot be overlooked unless one wishes to remain in denial.
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Scott, how did you ever do it? I sometimes ask my pdoc about balancing forgiveness, blame, anger, grief. Blame is an interesting phenomena. Actually, I've not looked up it's etymology. Lately, I'm
examining my need, impulse, tendency, ? to blame. Some therapist's encourage blame, and that maybe quite appropriate
and necessary case by case. I know I stumble on it. Yes, cause and effect. Of
course forgiving them (and God and the world) would include forgiving myself. Ah, perfectionism.> I don't know. Just some psychobabble.
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Me neither. Gave me something to think about, though. Then sent along some of my own :)> - Scott
MDD currently controlled. C-ptsd and comorbid health concerns. Chronic fatigue.
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