Posted by laurenjb on September 9, 2005, at 13:42:44
In reply to Re: Mental problems, Meds and love...... » Tepiaca, posted by phillipa on September 8, 2005, at 22:01:18
First, I want to say that Phillipa must be the kindest person on earth. Her posts are always compassionate and give me much-needed hope.
This issue really affects me, too. I am 36 and my way of dealing with fear of rejection is to have casual relationships with younger guys where there is always an understanding that things are temporary (my friend calls it "planned obsolescence"). It helps in the sense of having distraction, physical intimacy and the sense of feeling attractive and wanted, but I really want a long-term relationship and children and this is obviously not going to get me there. I am finally talking with my therapist about this and trying to make better decisions about men, but, ultimately, I have to agree with the poster (sorry, I forget who it was!) who said, in a nutshell, that everyone is imperfect and that that certainly does not preclude love. Sometimes it's not the best time for us (like me -- just got out of the hospital -- not such a good catch right now :-)), but I know that I need to believe it will happen for me and I hope that you all can believe for yourselves, too. Take care, Lauren
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