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Really long, si. Yer right about life. » si

Posted by shar on June 9, 2000, at 16:21:30

In reply to coping with the fact that lifes not much fun, posted by si on June 4, 2000, at 7:03:25

I agree with those who have posted that life sucks when you're getting sober. "Thirty days and a thousand nights" my AA group said.

When I was getting sober I thought AA was gonna be really goody-goody, Pollyanna. But I went to the group by my house, and the stories I heard were NOT Pollyanna. When one guy was talking and said "the morning I woke up in a Dempsey Dumpster I knew things had to change..." I knew that was the group for me.

I went initially and it did help. My son went through a hosp. program and attended NA when he got done. But, he kept hanging with the crowd that was using, and slowly but surely he started using again.

So, sobriety isn't just a choice you are making now, it's a choice you have to make over and over. That's why people who can stay sober are so courageous and strong (while feeling life sucks). Because life can sure as hell suck when you're sober!! (Isn't that often why we start using?)

I really, really want to support you in what you are doing. One thing that is very healing is humor. Often that's available in NA/AA/etc. if you can find the right group. Otherwise, if you can get any humor tapes/cd's/etc. I would encourage you to. I listened to a Steve Martin tape at work once with headphones on, and was about to pop because it was so hard to hold my laughter in. And, headphones are nice because they let you screen out the other stuff (life).

Have you ever heard Firesign Theater? They are a group that you have to listen to about ten times before you get all the jokes in their scenarios. They are sort of Monty Python/Kids in the Hall but fast talkers.

I don't know if you like to write. It can be cathartic, but I always hated to go back and read what I'd written. However, writing can be drawn too. If you will draw. Drawing can be neat because you can draw anything at all, doesn't have to be "good" you can just take a pencil and color a whole page gray with it. Whatever.

Can you get out and walk? If it isn't too hot? I think that is really good because I was so restless when I was sobering up. I wore my dog out taking her on walks. (Walks being up one house, turn around go home. Up two houses, turn around and go home. Up three houses, etc.)

Also, drumming (like African drumming) can be really interesting if you have people in your town doing it (just getting together somewhere, everyone is welcome, you don't have to drum you can just take it in, etc). For one thing it is active, your hands are moving, also you are listening to the beats--moving in and out of them, often outdoors, putting your beats in between the others, or picking out one beat and responding to it, answering it. When you can get a rhythm going it can be very absorbing. And lots of times, people will loan you a drum or let you use one of theirs--seems like everyone who drums has at least two. One for each hand?

When you said Pink Floyd I thought you meant the group--doh! Live and learn, eh?

OK, enough! This is too long! Good Luck to you.

Fight the good fight, emerge bloody but unbowed, take action on behalf of yourself! Screw heroin!!! Screw alcohol!!!

I'll be sending you lots of funny vibes.
xoxo S


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