Posted by judy1 on January 13, 2004, at 13:57:17
In reply to What I say three times IS TRUE (Racer Rant), posted by Racer on January 12, 2004, at 14:29:41
It sounds like intellectually you understand your illness and what it means to your lifestyle and how you have to cope with it. but emotionally, especially when you write about your family, it sounds like you and your therp have some work to do. we all want the approval of our parents, even when we recognize there is pathology there that doesn't prevent that overwhelming need. I've found that it helps me to look at someone else's situation, I'm much more objective and can say why do you need that person's approval after they abused you? (I'm going to have to agree with shar that your mom's actions when you were ill were abuse). notice I wrote that 'when I look at another person's situation :-)'. it is so much harder to change our own reactions, it's like the guilt is hard-wired, maybe it is? I guess all I can write is it's a very gradual process, one I think you've started simply by recognizing that it exists.
take care, judy
p.s. I really like 'racer's rants'
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