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Posted by Deneb on March 8, 2006, at 22:31:27
He doesn't answer my questions of whether or not my love makes him uncomfortable.
Can you tell me that you think he thinks?
What do you think he thinks about the situation?
Do you think things will be OK for the Babble Party? He won't laugh at me will he? Will he be afraid of me? Is anyone here afraid of me?
What would you do if you were Dr. Bob and someone was a little obsessed with you? How would you feel if you were going to meet me in person?
Deneb*
Posted by Tanzanite on March 8, 2006, at 23:00:28
In reply to Dr. Bob doesn't answer my questions, posted by Deneb on March 8, 2006, at 22:31:27
I am guessing Dr. Bob isn't answering your questions about whether or not your professions of love are making him uncomfortable or not, because he doesn't want to hinder your expression and also because he has his boundaries, wouldn't want to make you uncomfortable, say something that would hurt you. Also, remember on the admin board that he was looking if I remember correctly to find others that had some things in common as far as for feelings for him too. So he is also observant more than probably one to answer those sort of questions. I know this is gonna sound silly perhaps, but it if were me and someone loved me in the way you have professed to loving Dr. Bob I may be flattered, but also feel a sense of obligation because it is hard to have to draw the line between wanting to help someone out and also know that a person cares about you. I think things will go great for you at the Babble party, and I do not think Dr. Bob will be afraid of you because it seems as if your love for Dr. Bob is innocent and that you almost look up to him in your own way because of your own personal life experiences. If I remember in a fuzzy sort of way. I am not afraid of you. I do not find you scary. I think you have a good heart, a good personality, and are going through a lot of things just like the rest of us. I have done my best to answer your post. Please do not be hard on yourself Deneb. There are a lot of people here that care about you, even if it seems (not the same as in real life at times) there are still real people behind the posts :) I am one of them. I really wish I could go to this Babble party. I am so so far away. I would love to meet you and Dr. Bob and the other Babblers. I think it would be awesome. Well, Deneb, take care and try to have some peace of mind. HUGS.
Tanzanite/Chelle
Posted by Deneb on March 8, 2006, at 23:51:34
In reply to Hey there Deneb, posted by Tanzanite on March 8, 2006, at 23:00:28
> I am guessing Dr. Bob isn't answering your questions about whether or not your professions of love are making him uncomfortable or not, because he doesn't want to hinder your expression and also because he has his boundaries, wouldn't want to make you uncomfortable, say something that would hurt you.
That makes sense. Thanks so much for answering me.
> Also, remember on the admin board that he was looking if I remember correctly to find others that had some things in common as far as for feelings for him too.
Dr. Bob did that so I wouldn't be alone in loving him. That was nice of him to do. Maybe that is evidence that he doesn't mind. I just want him to know I'm not super obsessed. I don't constantly search for him online or print pictures of him or anything like that. I don't think he has the perfect life or is perfect. I think he should understand. Maybe he has experience with transference. I'm glad Dr. Bob understands. I'm so glad he's Dr. Bob and not someone who doesn't understand.
Since no one here is afraid of me, I'm guessing it's pretty safe to say that Dr. Bob isn't afraid of me either.
> I know this is gonna sound silly perhaps, but it if were me and someone loved me in the way you have professed to loving Dr. Bob I may be flattered, but also feel a sense of obligation because it is hard to have to draw the line between wanting to help someone out and also know that a person cares about you.
I think Dr. Bob keeps very good boundaries. I'm think things will be okay. I and hope he won't treat me differently from other posters. I wouldn't want him to avoid me just because I love him.
> I think things will go great for you at the Babble party, and I do not think Dr. Bob will be afraid of you because it seems as if your love for Dr. Bob is innocent and that you almost look up to him in your own way because of your own personal life experiences. If I remember in a fuzzy sort of way.
I look up to Dr. Bob a lot. He's smart and successful, calm and collected all the time. I wish I could be those things. He's giving, unselfish and makes sure those on the fringes are not forgotten.
> I am not afraid of you. I do not find you scary. I think you have a good heart, a good personality, and are going through a lot of things just like the rest of us. I have done my best to answer your post.
Thank-you so very much for answering my post! :-)
> Please do not be hard on yourself Deneb. There are a lot of people here that care about you, even if it seems (not the same as in real life at times) there are still real people behind the posts :) I am one of them.
:o)
I know you're real. Everyone here is real. It's really great.
> I really wish I could go to this Babble party. I am so so far away. I would love to meet you and Dr. Bob and the other Babblers. I think it would be awesome.
I really want to meet you too. Maybe some day Dr. Bob will go to where you are. He travels a lot.
(((((((Tanzanite))))))))
You're the best. :-)
Deneb*
Posted by Tanzanite on March 9, 2006, at 0:09:07
In reply to Re: Hey there Deneb » Tanzanite, posted by Deneb on March 8, 2006, at 23:51:34
Well, I just hope you keep thinking positive thoughts Deneb. Because you have a good heart and I know you are really working hard at a lot of things right now. I would really love to see your life expand into something special for you each day that you have new experiences, meet new people, take new steps. I had a lot happen to me, and then the life I had kinda just stopped and I fell apart. I don't want this to happen to anyone. But, then I have to remind myself these things happen for a reason and I will find another way to make my life more interesting even if it takes time. I have so far to go, but I have to remember these things for myself too. Just keep creative, don't give up on yourself, and remember you aren't alone. It is easy I think for so many of us here to feel alone or misunderstood. But, they say folks like us are more creative, emotional, unique. I don't think that is necessarily a bad thing. Some of the most famous folks in the world have gone through similar experiences. Eventually i think some of us come to a certain point in life where if we can accept ourselves and have some kind of harmony like that, then we are more able to cope and be more willing to venture out. Me, still at stage 1. Take care and keep knitting, going to school, and I hope you have many awesome days to come.
Chelle
Posted by crazy teresa on March 9, 2006, at 13:47:30
In reply to Dr. Bob doesn't answer my questions, posted by Deneb on March 8, 2006, at 22:31:27
You know he doesn't answer any questions not related to andministration.
This issue has come up many times.
Let it go.
Posted by Deneb on March 9, 2006, at 14:58:48
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob doesn't answer my questions » Deneb, posted by crazy teresa on March 9, 2006, at 13:47:30
> You know he doesn't answer any questions not related to andministration.
>
> This issue has come up many times.
>
> Let it go.
>Dinah told me to ask Dr. Bob if he minds me loving him. I just thought that if Dinah thought it was a good idea, I should do it. Dinah is a deputy and she communicates with Dr. Bob so she should know what is appropriate to ask him.
Deneb*
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