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Posted by Susan47 on March 17, 2005, at 13:09:21
See now I remember when my children were babies, they were cute and fat and so beautiful, so incredibly beautiful, you've never seen more beautiful children, especially the youngest, he was unbelievable. They still attract people, they're just physically, you know, beautiful. Weird for me to actually be saying that. I mean, you expect that from every mother, but this is a reflection of my love I suppose. Partly. Yes, probably all because they're very very loving children, they Have It. People love them because they're lovely loving people. Hmmm. Maybe this wasn't a bad thing to have happen to me today.
Posted by Susan47 on March 17, 2005, at 13:15:03
In reply to TV Ain't doin' It, posted by Susan47 on March 17, 2005, at 13:09:21
babies anymore, those days are gone now, there's no more tiny little mouths sucking, tiny little hands grasping, soft incredibly soft little cheeks that smell like me ... I'm so lost ...
Posted by partlycloudy on March 17, 2005, at 14:08:43
In reply to I Wont' have anymore of those little fat round, posted by Susan47 on March 17, 2005, at 13:15:03
I never had any children, and neither did my sister. Our mom didn't seem too thrilled with any of us, and I guess we both filed that factoid away in some part of our brains. We don't talk about it. In a way I'm glad because I don't think I come from the best gene pool around.
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p.s. and now you are not the only person posting today! I took a sick day from work. Tired of dealing with anxiety all day and trying to smile through it. So I stayed home, cuddled with my cat, and did some cooking for the weekend. We have guests coming.
Posted by sunny10 on March 17, 2005, at 15:01:25
In reply to Re: I Wont' have anymore of those little fat round » Susan47, posted by partlycloudy on March 17, 2005, at 14:08:43
Posted by anastasia56 on March 17, 2005, at 16:22:41
In reply to TV Ain't doin' It, posted by Susan47 on March 17, 2005, at 13:09:21
you were very lucky to have experienced that babyhood stuff. i get my baby fixes from relatives children. but especially the babies. holding their warm bodies against my chest. snuggling their soft heads in my neck. ain't nothing like a baby.
ana
Posted by Susan47 on March 17, 2005, at 19:57:33
In reply to Re: TV Ain't doin' It, posted by anastasia56 on March 17, 2005, at 16:22:41
Well I talked to a friend today who's never had any children either and misses that, so we decided we're going to make lots of money and each adopt a Chinese baby girl from China, and raise them together. :) I wish I wishiwishiwishiwish ... oh, but I want to raise her on a sailboat, in a nice warm climate ... and all my present children have to visit often ...
Posted by sunny10 on March 18, 2005, at 9:52:27
In reply to Re: TV Ain't doin' It, posted by Susan47 on March 17, 2005, at 19:57:33
I still say you need to adopt yourself and treat yourself as well as you would treat a precious newborn....
You give away a lot of love that you should be giving to yourself.
Your babies may be growing up, but you still need your love and so do they.
I think you should try to get a job in the NICU... gather and spread the love with the babies; do a great service to yourself AND earn a paycheck--- goodness, how great would THAT potentially be???
Ooops, sunny10's spouting off again... with love, darling, with love!
Posted by Susan47 on March 18, 2005, at 10:40:00
In reply to Re: TV Ain't doin' It » Susan47, posted by sunny10 on March 18, 2005, at 9:52:27
The beauty of my new career (which I chose, I CHOSE IT, yaaaaaa yee ha) okay the beauty of it is that there are so many hospital units to work in, they're all dramatically different and yet the same, it's a place where people live, eat, and work. Sleep, and dream. Live. They live there. I think that's why I really chose hospital work.
Posted by Susan47 on March 18, 2005, at 10:41:52
In reply to Re: TV Ain't doin' It » Susan47, posted by sunny10 on March 18, 2005, at 9:52:27
Oh I forgot to tell you, I love all your big MWAH kisses, I think I might've actually felt the last one there, something brushed my left cheek as I was reading ...
Oh, and another thing about hospitals is lots of ... shhh .. responsibility and ... respect.
Posted by Toph on March 18, 2005, at 11:06:58
In reply to Re: TV Ain't doin' It, posted by Susan47 on March 18, 2005, at 10:40:00
> it's a place where people live, eat, and work. Sleep, and dream. Live. They live there. I think that's why I really chose hospital work.
>I couldn't agree with you more. I've tried having each one of my kids consider health care for their futures, not that they listen. I worked as a pharmacy technician for two great years after I quit school in the early '70s. The hospital was teeming with young people avoiding Vietnam and otherwise finding their way in life. I loved what you talked about, the fact that it is a self-contained world where people are born and die, get sick and heal, where staff care for patients and for each other. I learned some responsibility (when I wasn't pocketing an occasional Dexedrine), I made lifelong friends, I made some cash to get my first apartment and my first used car (VW Bug), we had softball and vollyball teams, and I learned to be helpful like when I helped student nurses with their anatomy homework. A lot of my work with elderly clients involves getting them into care and helping them return home. It's no coincidence that I met my wife in a hospital where she was a discharge planner. Anyway, I know how you feel about that work - how much kindness an ill person is given goes a long way in determining their recovery.
Posted by sunny10 on March 18, 2005, at 11:42:44
In reply to Re: TV Ain't doin' It, posted by Toph on March 18, 2005, at 11:06:58
It is very easy for me to see that you guys are MADE for helping others... this does not come as any surprise to me at all.
Suze, I can feel that you need to give to others and to spread some happy in that way. And it's not a bad need to fulfill. Just keep yourself and YOUR happy in mind, too. You are not twenty anymore- you will be happier in the long run if you can fulfill those needs during regular working hours so that you still have time to re-charge when you are not at work.
You can't do that if you adopt. All of the hours of the day are work hours when you're a "new" mom. I'm sure you still remember that! Your youngest is younger than mine....
And you deserve to try to give yourself those surroundings- the responsibility and the respect you deserve!
You are feeling soooo much more sure about what you are capable of than the time we actually talked. I am so happy to hear it- 'cause I could tell you are capable just by talking to you!
You can be proud of sharing your ideas instead of apologizing for them. I, for one, learn a lot and think a lot when you post- especially when you think of something else to add and post that, too...I love that... I can almost smell the smoke your churning brain is creating!!! You're on fire, baby!!!
Posted by Susan47 on March 18, 2005, at 12:11:13
In reply to Re: Gosh you guys make me feel proud of you..., posted by sunny10 on March 18, 2005, at 11:42:44
Well, your comment about me not being twenty anymore, Well now, I just have to tell you Sunny, that made me put my hand on my hip and Hmph. Hmph. Well. To be honest, now, I'm closer to the end than the beginning. I just hope it's not too much closer. I still want to be a ways away.
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