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Posted by Tabitha on December 28, 2002, at 17:03:59
Hi, about that yoga girl, before you take the big step of engaging her in conversation, how about starting even slower, like just a smile and eye contact, and then a "Hi", before or after class. That's just simple friendliness. You can judge her reaction to that, and gradually work up to complete sentences. Baby steps might make it easier for both of you.
From experience, I used to take yoga, and there were so few males there, I would have been thrilled if one of them singled me out to be friendly. Actually I would have been thrilled if anyone was friendly. Everyone seemed so serious about yoga.
P.S. I always felt terribly self-conscious doing that cat post, certain someone was staring at my ass. If not in lust, then in horror.
Posted by bluedog on December 29, 2002, at 5:15:57
In reply to To bluedog, posted by Tabitha on December 28, 2002, at 17:03:59
> Hi, about that yoga girl, before you take the big step of engaging her in conversation, how about starting even slower, like just a smile and eye contact, and then a "Hi", before or after class. That's just simple friendliness. You can judge her reaction to that, and gradually work up to complete sentences. Baby steps might make it easier for both of you.
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> From experience, I used to take yoga, and there were so few males there, I would have been thrilled if one of them singled me out to be friendly. Actually I would have been thrilled if anyone was friendly. Everyone seemed so serious about yoga.
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> P.S. I always felt terribly self-conscious doing that cat post, certain someone was staring at my ass. If not in lust, then in horror.Thank you Tabitha for you kind words of advice and support. I'm just going to have to take that initial step and develop some courage. Baby steps seems like a great idea and will enable me to save face if the vibes are not right!!!
I am very lucky in my yoga class. I have a teacher who has a great sense of humour and does not take the whole Yogic Guru thing at all seriously. Before I chose my current teacher I went to another class where it was forbidden to talk or have a joke prior to class as this would disturb the whole "karma inner peace thingy" atmosphere of those that were searching their inner selves for their true yogic identities prior to class. YUK!!!... definitely not for me.
Those attending my class are all very friendly normal people with a great sense of humour. For instance in our final class before christmas we were all doing some rather embarrassing tongue releases which involved sticking our tongues out of our mouths further and further. Considering my social phobia I don't know what overcame me but I made some "by the way" comment that we were all working up to doing a "Gene Simmons" and that we would all be able to get up on stage with KISS on their next Australian tour. I kid you not but the whole class just burst out in hysterics including the teacher. You just have to find a teacher and class in your area that suits you! I have really come to love my yoga and find I get much more tense during the holiday breaks when there are no classes.
OH, by the way I've seen your photo so I can assure you that any one behind you would have been looking at your ass in lust and NOT horror. You girls really need to become less self conscious about your asses because us guys (and some gals of course) are no where near as judgemental about this as you believe:))))
A very warm thankyou
bluedog
Posted by bluedog on January 2, 2003, at 10:03:59
In reply to Re: To bluedog » Tabitha, posted by bluedog on December 29, 2002, at 5:15:57
I would like to thank you all for your words of advice and encouragement.
It is very comforting to know that there are such warm and kind posters on this board that are willing to give me tips on this topic and for a horribly social phobic person like myself it reminds me that I have to move out of my comfort zone (my fear of rejection zone) at times to achieve the things that my heart desires. The fact that this advice comes from you girls gives me much heart and hope and makes me realise that we really are all looking for the same thing. A happy fulfilled life with people to love and who love you in return without any judgement but merely acceptance of who we are as individuals (I hope this doesn't sound TOO mushy)
My yoga classes start up again later this month so I will keep you all updated on how I am doing with my favourite yoga girl [or whether I chicken out in which case you can all give me a little more prodding :))).]
My super warmest regards to you all
bluedog
Posted by Tabitha on January 2, 2003, at 16:08:52
In reply to To Tabitha, BookGurl and Alara- re: Yoga girl!!!, posted by bluedog on January 2, 2003, at 10:03:59
You go, Bluedog! But I'm not sure if I was being kind so much as wanting some vicarious sense of accomplishment. My own love life is in such a state of limbo it's good to hear of a little flirtation developing.
BTW, in case you wonder why I started a new thread on this, and now the thread is sort of "split", is that I've been chastised before for getting off-topic, and since the other thread was originally about utopizen, I thought I'd be polite and start another before jumping in with my advice re yoga girl. But... threads have minds of their own and now it's just confusing that there are 2 threads. Good intentions gone awry.
Posted by bluedog on January 2, 2003, at 19:13:58
In reply to Re: To Tabitha, BookGurl and Alara- re: Yoga girl!!! » bluedog, posted by Tabitha on January 2, 2003, at 16:08:52
> You go, Bluedog! But I'm not sure if I was being kind so much as wanting some vicarious sense of accomplishment. My own love life is in such a state of limbo it's good to hear of a little flirtation developing.
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> BTW, in case you wonder why I started a new thread on this, and now the thread is sort of "split", is that I've been chastised before for getting off-topic, and since the other thread was originally about utopizen, I thought I'd be polite and start another before jumping in with my advice re yoga girl. But... threads have minds of their own and now it's just confusing that there are 2 threads. Good intentions gone awry.Don't worry Tabitha
2 threads doesn't phase me and nor does it confuse me. I actually felt the same way so I have actually advised Bookgurl and Alara in Utopizen's thread that I am now posting on this topic in this thread that you started.
And don't forget......TiPpYtOes, TiPpYtOes!!!! :). Worrrying about good intentions gone awry will bring down the unspeakable punishment of Dreamerz elves onto you :).
warm regards
bluedog
Posted by Alara on January 3, 2003, at 20:20:08
In reply to To Tabitha, BookGurl and Alara- re: Yoga girl!!!, posted by bluedog on January 2, 2003, at 10:03:59
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> My yoga classes start up again later this month so I will keep you all updated on how I am doing with my favourite yoga girl [or whether I chicken out in which case you can all give me a little more prodding :))).]
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> Bluedog...
If you chicken out, Tabitha, Bookgurl and I will pester you until you act! :-)
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