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Posted by gardenergirl on December 10, 2004, at 23:01:35
Okay, here's one of two dreams I've had recently that seem rich with therapy fodder, that I referred to in a thread above. I'm a little fuzzy on the order of things since it's been several days now.
In this one, I was staying at my mother's house. (Of course it was not at all like her real house or any past one, but that's how dreams go.) My sister and I were sharing a room as usual. This room was kind of like a basement, because it seemed like it had at least one cement block wall, and I remember hearing rustling from the corner, where there was kind of like some dead leaves and other stuff like you might find in a corner of the garage.
I had the window open, and I could see my brother out in a car, with I think a girl. I think they were out smoking pot or something (now he's 40, so really, what's my problem?). But anyway, I called the police and asked them to "evict" him from the house. (guess I couldn't just vote him off, eh?). I remember telling that this wasn't just because of whatever he was doing in the car...it was for this and that and the other...all kinds of things I apparently thought he screwed up.
The other part of the dream...can't remember if this was first or after bro was evicted...involved me wanting to run a bath. I was screaming and screaming at my mom, because I couldn't get any hot water to come out of the tap. I kept trying to yell, "How can you not have hot water????" Only I wasn't really making much sound. For whatever reason, it wasn't like real yelling. Not silent, but not able to hear it, either.
Mostly I just remember being really really angry in this dream. My T and I discussed it, and he came up with some almost prototypical psychobabble (no pun intended) as an interpretation. Kinda surprised me, because he's not one to fall into stereotypical interpretations. But it did make sense, too.
So, what do y'all think? I can share his opinion too, but I don't want to prime anyone beforehand.
gg
Posted by Daisym on December 11, 2004, at 20:35:12
In reply to Dream #1...you asked for it, Daisy! :-), posted by gardenergirl on December 10, 2004, at 23:01:35
Sounds like a sibling rivalry dream, you and your sister down below, brother up and out in the car, breaking rules, etc. You were the whistle blower, huh? Hmmm...well, good girls tend to want everyone to follow the rules too. And once you were angry you had a whole list of transgressions he had done. The fact that he was smoking dope or something sounds like you think he might be flaky?
And the bath - can't get what you want from your mother. And she doesn't have it to give. And it is something so ordinary (hot water) that EVERYONE else gets from their mother. I like the screaming but not being heard. That sounds like me and my mom. I would think the bath = comfort and you can't take one (find comfort) at your mom's house.
What did your therapist say?
Posted by annierose on December 11, 2004, at 21:35:22
In reply to Re: Dream #1...you asked for it, Daisy! :-) » gardenergirl, posted by Daisym on December 11, 2004, at 20:35:12
Dasiy, I think you did a great job with that dream. I'll have to pass along any wild dream that need intrepretations your way. Annie
Posted by gardenergirl on December 12, 2004, at 20:20:14
In reply to Re: Dream #1...you asked for it, Daisy! :-) » gardenergirl, posted by Daisym on December 11, 2004, at 20:35:12
> Hmmm...well, good girls tend to want everyone to follow the rules too.
Yes, I get very angry when others break the rules, especially if they get away with it. I just can't get over how some people can be so cavalier.
>The fact that he was smoking dope or something sounds like you think he might be flaky?
LOL! Oh my. That is the understatement of the year. I'll have to post about me bro sometime. Lots and lots of fodder there.
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> And the bath - can't get what you want from your mother. And she doesn't have it to give. And it is something so ordinary (hot water) that EVERYONE else gets from their mother. I like the screaming but not being heard. That sounds like me and my mom. I would think the bath = comfort and you can't take one (find comfort) at your mom's house.That part is exactly right. He said the same thing. Although we also very briefly speculated about "being in hot water" and how I wasn't able to do that. 'twas end of the session, though.
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> What did your therapist say?He seemed to think that evicting my bro was a stand in for evicting my dad. Not entirely sure what he means by that or if I agree. We didn't get to talk about it much. I'd almost rather evict bro, and mom is certainly more a part of the problem, especially still now, than dad. But who knows? At first I thought he was going for an Electra type thing, but that doesn't make any sense.
gg
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Posted by daisym on December 14, 2004, at 14:36:14
In reply to Dream #1...you asked for it, Daisy! :-), posted by gardenergirl on December 10, 2004, at 23:01:35
GG,
I talked to my therapist about dreams interpretation and symbols, etc. He said that often policemen in dreams are stand ins for therapists. Especially for someone who is currently in therapy.
And airports are also stand ins for therapy. (baggage, terminals, going back, going somewhere new, even the anxiety that travel usually brings on.)
Just thought I'd share. Does your brother need therapy?
Posted by gardenergirl on December 15, 2004, at 0:00:17
In reply to And My Therapist Says...., posted by daisym on December 14, 2004, at 14:36:14
Hi Daisy,
Thanks for passing this along. Interesting about police. I admit when I read this I thought, "did I dream about a police officer?" I had already forgotten that part. But it does make sense that I would like my T to help me deal with issues relating to either my bro or my dad. Probably both, actually.
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> And airports are also stand ins for therapy. (baggage, terminals, going back, going somewhere new, even the anxiety that travel usually brings on.)Oh lordy. So does this mean that I think my therapy is old and in need of revitalizing with a new coat of paint? And I am not adequately prepared to do the job? Okay, that last part feels right at times. And funny that I am hanging out in the airport, but I never knew where we were headed. That part definitly rings true!
Does my bro need therapy? And how! He is 40 years old, had never been able to keep a job more than a year or two at best, and that was maybe one job. He always ends up coming home to live with my mom. I think she currently supports him financially so that he can have his own apartment because it was too trying for her to have him living with her this last time.
He likely is an alcoholic. I wonder if he has ADHD, and I wonder about bipolar. He is the most defended person I have ever met, including patients of mine. Denial is his first, middle, and last names! Um, sound like a hot subject for me?
There was a time recently in therapy when I was kind of minimizing my mother's role in my own stuff, and my T said, "Look at your brother. She literally drove him crazy!" And now seems to have this need to keep him dependent on her. Or co-dependent.
Oh my, yes, I wish he would get therapy, but I cannot talk to him about anything psychological, because he thinks what I have been working my tuckus off for so long is hoo hah.
Okay, end of rant for the moment. Thanks for asking?
;)
gg
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> Just thought I'd share. Does your brother need therapy?
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