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Posted by Phil on January 27, 2014, at 13:38:22
i grew up in a traumatic environment. im sure others here have too.
sometimes when i'm anxious, scared etc i realize that it isn't me but a kid named philp.
i have not done anything for three weeks but mail is the worse.
Philip why are you in the corner and covering your face? Are you scared?
yes
why
i dunno
remember when i came to the old house and you answered the door?
what did i say.
you are not living in this sh*t. you are me and i am you. lets go.
have you eaten pizza?
no
you're gonna love it.
we're going home me and you.
wow this is cool/
i need your help philip because i haven't oped mail in 3 weeks
is that bad?
well i hope not.((we kept talking and i hardly noticed that i sat at the desk and in an hour it was done with no anxiety.
philp we did it.
YAY!!
I think we should reward ourselves.
what's that. well buy a toy, maybe more stuffed animals. think, what would you love to have?
i want to be with you forever . why are you crying?
because that was my answer too.
philip do you know how strong you've been. and you forgave everybody
yeah
do you know how much i love you and how proud of you i am?
yeah will we ever break up?
never don't worry your life is about to change and you know what? we are going to have a lot of fun.just by talking to the inner child i could pay bills. but there's a lot of emotion. it's been the most effective tool in my life. take the separation and make it one.
I used it to get thru a job interview and other stuff. thank you john bradshaw.
Posted by baseball55 on January 27, 2014, at 19:28:15
In reply to has anyone done inner child work, posted by Phil on January 27, 2014, at 13:38:22
I've found myself doing that in recent months. Trying to talk to myself the way I would talk to my daughter or a good friend if they were troubled. My therapist pushes me to do this because my default position is to hector myself.
Posted by Phil on January 27, 2014, at 19:52:42
In reply to Re: has anyone done inner child work, posted by baseball55 on January 27, 2014, at 19:28:15
I need to get bradshaws dvd's. i think he has meditations to use if you don't mind ripping your heart out for a while.
i was going to a job interview years ago. I was not well. I thought what are you so afraid of. i thought about my inner child and we started talking. I got the job. It's real to me. There's a split and i lost half, the half that's running the show. damn alcoholics.
Posted by alexandra_k on January 28, 2014, at 2:41:45
In reply to Re: has anyone done inner child work » baseball55, posted by Phil on January 27, 2014, at 19:52:42
oh yes.
and that is how i'm doing my math. a little part of me is doing it. playing a game. a fun game. that she is good at. she's a smart little kid... and she's going to grow up to go to university and study something cool with math in it.
absolutely.
i think it is important to see ourselves objectively. as objectively as we can. to speak to ourself... not how we have been spoken to... but how we would like to speak to a kid that we care very much about. the good parent... good enough parent... be that for ourself. we are capable of looking after ourself (knowing what that small part inside of us wants / needs) much better than anybody else does. i believe. we need that small part... so we can feel compassion and care for ourself.
congrats on getting a goal done!!! that truly is wonderful. i'm proud of you, too.
Posted by Phil on January 28, 2014, at 9:32:21
In reply to Re: has anyone done inner child work, posted by alexandra_k on January 28, 2014, at 2:41:45
Posted by Ronnjee on January 28, 2014, at 13:50:33
In reply to thanks! (nm) » alexandra_k, posted by Phil on January 28, 2014, at 9:32:21
No, but the first thing that came to mind is a line from the Eagles' song "Get Over It" where Henley sings, "I'd like to find your inner child and kick its little *ss".
Posted by Phil on January 28, 2014, at 14:44:40
In reply to Re: Inner Child Work, posted by Ronnjee on January 28, 2014, at 13:50:33
i remember the song. henleys an *ssh*l* and a sh*tty drummer.
Posted by Ronnjee on January 28, 2014, at 15:02:17
In reply to Re: Inner Child Work » Ronnjee, posted by Phil on January 28, 2014, at 14:44:40
> i remember the song. henleys an *ssh*l* and a sh*tty drummer.
Funny, Phil. And it's just a song. I prolly shouldn't have been silly in a serious thread. Ignore my intrusion.
Posted by Phil on January 28, 2014, at 19:24:15
In reply to Re: Inner Child Work, posted by Ronnjee on January 28, 2014, at 15:02:17
no problem at all. the only drummer that sucked more than him was dennis wilson of the beach boys. it's good to be family.
Posted by baseball55 on January 28, 2014, at 20:58:57
In reply to Re: Inner Child Work, posted by Ronnjee on January 28, 2014, at 13:50:33
> No, but the first thing that came to mind is a line from the Eagles' song "Get Over It" where Henley sings, "I'd like to find your inner child and kick its little *ss".
"Get over it" is the worst thing I can say to myself. I said it to myself for years and just pushed myself harder and harder until I got addicted to drugs and started falling apart. If you can't feel compassion for yourself, you can't function and can't feel compassion for others, so you will be cut off and isolated. Get over it, snap out of it -- these are the hateful, hurtful, un-empathic things we say to ourselves and others that feed shame and despair.
Posted by alexandra_k on January 28, 2014, at 21:21:29
In reply to Re: Inner Child Work, posted by baseball55 on January 28, 2014, at 20:58:57
inner children are like fragile little butterflies. that's what makes them special. and beautiful. and magical and stuff. mine doesn't like being teased etc... needs to be protected...
Posted by Ronnjee on January 28, 2014, at 22:41:21
In reply to Re: Inner Child Work » Ronnjee, posted by Phil on January 28, 2014, at 19:24:15
> no problem at all. the only drummer that sucked more than him was dennis wilson of the beach boys. it's good to be family.
I agree! But at least, Wilson did us a favor.
Posted by SLS on January 29, 2014, at 6:19:18
In reply to Re: Inner Child Work, posted by Ronnjee on January 28, 2014, at 22:41:21
> > no problem at all. the only drummer that sucked more than him was dennis wilson of the beach boys. it's good to be family.
>
> I agree! But at least, Wilson did us a favor.What favor was that?
Dennis Wilson died at age 39 from drowning. He had been drinking alcohol (he was addicted to alcohol and cocaine) to the point of inebriation, and subsequently dove into a swimming pool.
- Scott
Posted by SLS on January 29, 2014, at 6:36:59
In reply to Re: Inner Child Work, posted by baseball55 on January 28, 2014, at 20:58:57
> > No, but the first thing that came to mind is a line from the Eagles' song "Get Over It" where Henley sings, "I'd like to find your inner child and kick its little *ss".
>
> "Get over it" is the worst thing I can say to myself. I said it to myself for years and just pushed myself harder and harder until I got addicted to drugs and started falling apart. If you can't feel compassion for yourself, you can't function and can't feel compassion for others, so you will be cut off and isolated. Get over it, snap out of it -- these are the hateful, hurtful, un-empathic things we say to ourselves and others that feed shame and despair.When I first heard the song, I was surprised and disappointed. I thought it was callous and dismissive. It seemed to be out of character for Henley to write something like that. Aside from the lyrics, it makes for good rock-n-roll. I can listen to it without "pitching a fit".
- Scott
Posted by SLS on January 29, 2014, at 6:59:51
In reply to has anyone done inner child work, posted by Phil on January 27, 2014, at 13:38:22
I don't think I use inner child work per se. However, I find it very helpful to try to locate where in my childhood my difficulties arose, and what events in particular were traumatic. For me, understanding the origin of psychological issues in some ways allows me to diffuse self-blame for having them. It helps for me to have other people as references so as to provide hints to recognize issues that need attention as well as in what directions to head for achieving my goals of mental and physical health.
- Scott
Posted by Phillipa on January 29, 2014, at 9:04:32
In reply to Re: has anyone done inner child work » Phil, posted by SLS on January 29, 2014, at 6:59:51
I do that also. Only thing is so much happened that then I say stop it happened, it's over, done and nothing I can do. The players are no longer with me. PJ
Posted by SLS on January 29, 2014, at 9:45:36
In reply to Re: has anyone done inner child work » SLS, posted by Phillipa on January 29, 2014, at 9:04:32
> I do that also. Only thing is so much happened that then I say stop it happened, it's over, done and nothing I can do. The players are no longer with me. PJ
In my way of thinking, there is something you can do. The past is still alive inside of you. You can learn from your past to live a better life in the present and future. Easier said than done, I know. If your present is okay, then there may be no work to be done.
I do not consider you too old to enhance your mental health. I bet your best thinking is done while you are riding your bicycle. Perhaps you can take advantage of your energetic thinking during these times to assess what things you would like to change about yourself.
- Scott
Posted by Phillipa on January 29, 2014, at 20:30:44
In reply to Re: has anyone done inner child work » Phillipa, posted by SLS on January 29, 2014, at 9:45:36
Correct same as running used to be for kind of a meditation I also review problems. But some nothing can do about so have to accept them. Some things can't be changed and I can not write them on line. I hope you understand. PJ
Posted by Twinleaf on January 29, 2014, at 21:47:28
In reply to Re: has anyone done inner child work » SLS, posted by Phillipa on January 29, 2014, at 20:30:44
I think I understand. You may be referring to a combination of difficult situations from both the past and from more recent times. On this thread, I think we were talking about traumas from childhood - the effects of which can persist in the present as anxiety, fear, depression, nightmares, etc.
While I know and respect that it is not something you plan to do, I do think that psychotherapy is by far the most effective treatment for childhood trauma, with medication usually playing an important, but lesser role. The big challenge is finding someone who 's right for you. If I remember correctly, you did try with several people, but none of them felt right. Was that true?
Posted by linkadge on February 17, 2014, at 16:47:23
In reply to Re: has anyone done inner child work » Phillipa, posted by Twinleaf on January 29, 2014, at 21:47:28
I don't bother him anymore
Posted by Partlycloudy on February 17, 2014, at 16:49:04
In reply to Re: my inner child bit me, posted by linkadge on February 17, 2014, at 16:47:23
Posted by Phil on February 23, 2014, at 15:06:23
In reply to Re: my inner child bit me, posted by linkadge on February 17, 2014, at 16:47:23
Posted by Phil on February 23, 2014, at 16:06:01
In reply to meds good//childhood trauma//good jokes (nm), posted by Phil on February 23, 2014, at 15:06:23
I read an article recently that said kids who grow up in alcoholic households are traumatized as much or more than a soldier in active combat.
i've never been in active combat but my sh*t started around 7yo. scared is scared.
so the distinguished looking gentleman sitting next to me talks and we all get the same feelings because it's all of our stories. he's in his 70s. that's right, we don't graduate.
we are acoa, walking wounded but we have no fancy diagnosis. our diagnosis is pain. it's spelled ptsd.my friend says let the past go so i say a prayer. god this probably nice but could you put my friend in my house for a year in 1964. no, that's not nice...i love it.
in an instant the year is over and my friend and i are talking. yeah, i'm bipolar I. Too bad i'm acoa. oh that's that place where grownups are still bitching about mummy and daddy?
my friend says, if you only knew.after a meeting we all are standing outside, smoking-talking. I later found out that my new friend is an army general. i wouldn't have the self-esteem to talk to someone like that.
iced tea..so Phil tell me your story. His veneer starts to crack, so does mine. we were so similar. Phil I'm going to share my story tomorrow night at lubys on northloop. I had seen many people speak there. and said i'd be there.
hello, my name is chris. i'm an adult child of an alcoholic and if i may, i'd like to share my story.
Posted by Partlycloudy on February 24, 2014, at 5:37:39
In reply to Re: meds good//childhood trauma//good jokes, posted by Phil on February 23, 2014, at 16:06:01
Hello, that's me. Though the trauma started earlier and I am triggered now by new and wonderful, unsuspecting events. The fun never ends.
Meditation has been my salvation, plus therapy and a boatload of meds and supplements. Oh, and the house is awfully hard to leave.
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