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Posted by Jay_Original1 on December 18, 2012, at 4:55:39
Hey folks:
Well, I haven't posted in awhile since I have had my life change in so many ways just three or so weeks ago. My Mom, 73 going on 40, is one of the most beautiful, sweet women you would ever meet. On Nov.21/12, in the early afternoon, we where having one of our many, many deep, close talks/discussions. That same afternoon, she collapsed in the washroom, in immense pain, from a stroke...an aneurysm.
She was rushed to two hospitals, and then onto one of the best research/teaching hospitals in the world. Sorry if some of this sounds a little rough for some....in an amazing operation, they placed a coil around the artery in her head that was bleeding, and ran a catheter from the site all the way down and out of her groin. This would allow excess fluids causing pressure in her brain to empty into the catheter. She is waiting to have surgery to place a shunt in her head that would empty contents into her belly via an internal tube.
I am currently going through a rather intense mix of unstable emotions,but my doc is strongly helping me. She has been in the ICU for just over three or so weeks. Can I please ask (beg!) for some prayers. I have my Mom's power of attorney, and have moved into her bedroom looking after her little dog that is heartbroken without her, and my 75 year old father, who is quite disabled, with major anxiety and depression multiplying his disability, and is also on dialysis. I basically run the household, and this made me realize the super-powers a Mom must have to make a nice, loving clean home.
I will post more a bit latter on, as I start another day at 5:30 am. Again, prayers for my Mom...will be deeply thanked in gratitude.
Peace...
Jay (Canuck)
Posted by Phillipa on December 18, 2012, at 9:06:46
In reply to Prayers for my Mom's tragedy, posted by Jay_Original1 on December 18, 2012, at 4:55:39
Jay prayers to your Mom and whole family and you also. Love Phillipa
Posted by hyperfocus on December 18, 2012, at 12:07:19
In reply to Prayers for my Mom's tragedy, posted by Jay_Original1 on December 18, 2012, at 4:55:39
When my aunt's spine problems were worsening and was facing possible neurosurgery and convalescence the thing that worried me most was if I had the emotional resources to cope with everything that it entailed. I'm also pretty much disabled with depression and anxiety and have trouble getting out of the house much less running one or dealing with something like major illness or even worse. But the thing is I am coping with the situation. It was difficult and scary and there were many times when I felt like I couldn't handle this, but I can -- we all can.
I think you are a lot stronger than you realize -- we all are. All of us are capable of superhuman strength when it comes to taking care of the people we love the most. Most if not all the times these things happen so in someway we become better or stronger or our relationship with the people we love grows and strengthens. Your love can transcend pretty much anything. It's is difficult and scary and you might feel like it is pretty unfair on top of everything else you have to deal with but medical knowledge and tech is pretty wonderful these days; It's quite likely she has a bunch of years left for the both of you to enjoy. I will say a prayer for both of you.
Posted by Tabitha on December 21, 2012, at 11:02:47
In reply to Prayers for my Mom's tragedy, posted by Jay_Original1 on December 18, 2012, at 4:55:39
I'm so sorry this has happened Jay. I am wishing you the strength and wisdom to get through this.
Posted by Beckett on December 21, 2012, at 13:19:13
In reply to Prayers for my Mom's tragedy, posted by Jay_Original1 on December 18, 2012, at 4:55:39
You and your family are in my thoughts, Jay.
Posted by Free on December 21, 2012, at 16:53:05
In reply to Prayers for my Mom's tragedy, posted by Jay_Original1 on December 18, 2012, at 4:55:39
Hi Jay,
I have said prayers for your mother's swift and full recovery. May the guardian angels watch over your family (and her little dog) at this difficult time.
Take care,
-Free
Posted by Jay_Original1 on December 23, 2012, at 2:45:07
In reply to Re: Prayers for my Mom's tragedy » Jay_Original1, posted by Phillipa on December 18, 2012, at 9:06:46
> Jay prayers to your Mom and whole family and you also. Love Phillipa
Thank you Phillipa. In the end...kindness only matters..as Jewel said :).
Jay
Posted by Jay_Original1 on December 23, 2012, at 2:57:26
In reply to Re: Prayers for my Mom's tragedy » Jay_Original1, posted by hyperfocus on December 18, 2012, at 12:07:19
Thank you so kindly. Yes, it is amazing how resilient the human spirit can be. We can really rise above, and yes I actually now have found strength I never thought I had. Not perfect, but in some crazy way, I can handle this. And I am.
And, somehow, this has FINALLY made me *grow up* (at 43!!..) and realize I can do what I need to do to survive and really make it on my own. I was a bit too co-dependent before. Yes, I am a late bloomer..lol. As, I think it was Nietzsche who said "What won't kill you, will only make you stronger.".Thank you...again..:)
Jay
> When my aunt's spine problems were worsening and was facing possible neurosurgery and convalescence the thing that worried me most was if I had the emotional resources to cope with everything that it entailed. I'm also pretty much disabled with depression and anxiety and have trouble getting out of the house much less running one or dealing with something like major illness or even worse. But the thing is I am coping with the situation. It was difficult and scary and there were many times when I felt like I couldn't handle this, but I can -- we all can.
>
> I think you are a lot stronger than you realize -- we all are. All of us are capable of superhuman strength when it comes to taking care of the people we love the most. Most if not all the times these things happen so in someway we become better or stronger or our relationship with the people we love grows and strengthens. Your love can transcend pretty much anything. It's is difficult and scary and you might feel like it is pretty unfair on top of everything else you have to deal with but medical knowledge and tech is pretty wonderful these days; It's quite likely she has a bunch of years left for the both of you to enjoy. I will say a prayer for both of you.
Posted by Jay_Original1 on December 23, 2012, at 2:59:02
In reply to Re: Prayers for my Mom's tragedy » Jay_Original1, posted by Tabitha on December 21, 2012, at 11:02:47
> I'm so sorry this has happened Jay. I am wishing you the strength and wisdom to get through this.
Thank you Tabitha. You have always been so kind and sweet. Never can get enough of those. :)
Jay
Posted by Jay_Original1 on December 23, 2012, at 3:01:39
In reply to Re: Prayers for my Mom's tragedy, posted by Beckett on December 21, 2012, at 13:19:13
> You and your family are in my thoughts, Jay.
Thanks...so much again. I know there are bigger and more horrible tragedies out there..and my Mom's case can be downgraded from a 'tragedy'...as she is still alive and breathing.
Thank you again..:)
Jay
Posted by Jay_Original1 on December 23, 2012, at 3:04:12
In reply to Re: Prayers for my Mom's tragedy » Jay_Original1, posted by Free on December 21, 2012, at 16:53:05
Awwwweee...thank you so much :). Her little dog is actually doing not-too-bad, and I give him and smother him with all of the love I have..and that is a lot!. :)Thanks kindly,
Jay> Hi Jay,
>
> I have said prayers for your mother's swift and full recovery. May the guardian angels watch over your family (and her little dog) at this difficult time.
>
> Take care,
> -Free
>
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