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Posted by paulb on January 17, 2008, at 13:30:37
hi
i wanted to share ideas and thoughts about how others deal with the hostility of strangers you may meet on the street if you have a mental health problem. i thought moving from a town to a city might make things easier and it probably does but in recent years i found that people can be hostile although in a mild way towards me because i feel i exhibit mental health problems. a large part of the problem is that i have social phobia and always have had and i cant shake off what people may think of me. it really bothers me and makes it harder for me to go out. the kind of hostility im talking about is pretty mild like people humming and sighing in a fed up sort of way but occassionaly more. anyway your thoughts would be appreciated especially on things which lessen the problem.
Posted by ClearSkies on January 17, 2008, at 14:25:23
In reply to dealing with others hostility, posted by paulb on January 17, 2008, at 13:30:37
> hi
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> i wanted to share ideas and thoughts about how others deal with the hostility of strangers you may meet on the street if you have a mental health problem. i thought moving from a town to a city might make things easier and it probably does but in recent years i found that people can be hostile although in a mild way towards me because i feel i exhibit mental health problems. a large part of the problem is that i have social phobia and always have had and i cant shake off what people may think of me. it really bothers me and makes it harder for me to go out. the kind of hostility im talking about is pretty mild like people humming and sighing in a fed up sort of way but occassionaly more. anyway your thoughts would be appreciated especially on things which lessen the problem.One thing that has helped me is to think of what other people say or do as being their problem, and not mine. That is, they might sigh or roll their eyes at me or what they see me doing, but what they are exhibiting is their OWN problem, and they're the ones who have to Get Over It. It does help me to remind myself that I can only be minding my own business, and not somebody else's.
CS
Posted by Kath on January 17, 2008, at 15:51:23
In reply to Re: dealing with others hostility » paulb, posted by ClearSkies on January 17, 2008, at 14:25:23
Hi Paul,
I like what CS said.
I find it helps me sometimes, to have sort of 'pictures' or things I can visualize. One I'm currently using is if I am worrying, I say to myself "I'm not going to think about this right now; I'll think about it later, when I decide to." And then I picture a filing cabinet & imagine opening a drawer, getting a file folder out, putting my worry into it, putting it back & closing the drawer. Then later on, I do make a time to give the worry some thought.
With regard to the type of situation you describe, I might imagine, before even going out, that I'm stepping into a large bubble of light, which will remain around me as I go through my day. I would then have the idea that the outside of the bubble has the property of letting only good, pleasing, positive, friendly vibes through it, coming towards me. Anything else just bounces right off it & doesn't come close to me at all. If I'm in a situation where I might feel negative stuff, I think about my bubble & am aware that any negative stuff is just going to bounce off it.
:-) Kath
PS - you sound like a very sensitive person & we sensitive people might be sort of "too open" to the stuff around us & can be affected negatively by it.
Posted by Phillipa on January 18, 2008, at 12:27:42
In reply to Re: dealing with others hostility, posted by Kath on January 17, 2008, at 15:51:23
Kath you are amazing to me. I need to try some of what you say. I am extremely sensitive and get hurt very easily put up a front. Phillipa
Posted by Kath on January 18, 2008, at 14:19:09
In reply to Re: dealing with others hostility » Kath, posted by Phillipa on January 18, 2008, at 12:27:42
Phillipa - I'm a true co-dependent....want to HELP; FIX, etc. & as such, I have TONS of ideas!! LOL
luv, Kath
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