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Posted by Angela2 on June 3, 2007, at 14:33:13
I was supposed to go to a bridal shower today w/ my mom because a friend of our family is getting married. But I was so nervous I didn't go. I dunno. I just don't want to give my life up to sa. I catastrophize sometimes about what if this and what if that. I want to work hard to get over this.
Posted by Phillipa on June 3, 2007, at 15:55:04
In reply to social anxiety, posted by Angela2 on June 3, 2007, at 14:33:13
Angela if you want to work hard maybe CBT is for you. You may need to take a med in the beginning good luck. Are you on any now? Sorry you missed the shower. Love Phillipa
Posted by Angela2 on June 3, 2007, at 16:07:42
In reply to Re: social anxiety » Angela2, posted by Phillipa on June 3, 2007, at 15:55:04
Thanks Phillipa. Yes, I'm on zyprexa, abilify, lexapro, and ativan. Is that a lot of meds or what?! :p I don't see how I could possibly be nervous when I'm on all these meds. Maybe I just need to push forward. I'll talk to my t about cbt. Thanks!!
Posted by scratchpad on June 3, 2007, at 18:03:00
In reply to social anxiety, posted by Angela2 on June 3, 2007, at 14:33:13
I'm sorry if you feel you missed out on this bridal shower. After 20+ years of these I would love to have a reason to miss one! Sorry to all those brides out there, but often these are snooze-a-thons. Angela, it's awful to feel so anxious that we exclude ourselves from social activities. Were there any reasons that you might have wanted to give this party a miss?
Hope you feel better,
sp
Posted by Angela2 on June 3, 2007, at 19:08:32
In reply to Re: social anxiety » Angela2, posted by scratchpad on June 3, 2007, at 18:03:00
Hi Scratchpad. Thank you. I don't know if there wasa reason why I wanted to miss it, it was more like I kept thinking what if this, what if that.
Posted by Phillipa on June 3, 2007, at 20:26:29
In reply to Re: social anxiety, posted by Angela2 on June 3, 2007, at 19:08:32
Angela you sound so much like me but I heard zyprexa was almost foolproof. I am anxious all the time too. And hate social occasions avoid them like the plague. Love Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on June 3, 2007, at 22:06:28
In reply to Re: social anxiety » Angela2, posted by Phillipa on June 3, 2007, at 20:26:29
Well, Xanax helps, but so does... I don't know what you call it, but exposer maybe? The more you force yourself the more you realize its not ever as bad as you anticipate it to be. Maybe try attending functions with the knowledge that "you don't have long to stay". Include a person or two who will help you stay 10 - 15 minutes and then go. And then the next time try staying a little longer. I think proving ourselves wrong about something bad happening is the key to it all. At least it has been to me anyway. I'm not speaking from any type of psychology but just from personal experience.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on June 3, 2007, at 22:10:44
In reply to Re: social anxiety, posted by TexasChic on June 3, 2007, at 22:06:28
T does it really work for you? As I try it daily and I don't feel the accomplishment I should when I succeed at something any advise? I'll let you send me a bill. Love Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on June 3, 2007, at 22:26:01
In reply to Re: social anxiety » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on June 3, 2007, at 22:10:44
Well, like I said, I'm not a psychologist or anything, but little steps seem to work for me. And from my experience, things are never as bad as I anticipate them to be. And if things do get bad for whatever reason, I always leave myself an out. Just make up an excuse beforehand and leave after the alloted time. That's how I do it anyway.
-T
Posted by Angela2 on June 4, 2007, at 12:30:54
In reply to Re: social anxiety, posted by TexasChic on June 3, 2007, at 22:06:28
Thanks TC. I like your approach and will try it.
Angela2
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