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Posted by Glydin on June 27, 2006, at 22:50:49
aware of.... I hate that!!!
I’m going through a time where privacy is becoming more important to me. I no longer post a lot of details about myself but I have… here and elsewhere. While it would probably come to no bad consequence, it’s really bothering me.
This is partially coming from the fact I did a Google search on someone I used to be in contact with and found tons of personal information posted publicly. I felt like a voyeur and in a sense, I was. Also, seeing other sites where this site gets "talked about". I am creeped out.
This is not the first time it’s bothered me. I remember having a similar reaction when there was a request to use this site in research by a poster and when the article was done - ever how long ago that was done. I know I changed as to what I felt comfortable posting at the time but it’s easy for me to slip back and forget public IS public AND this mode may be the MOST public EVER. Keeping in mind, I came here when it was a research site… so, this reaction would seem a little strange but I have it.
Not “growing up” with this medium as communication has something to do with it and perhaps makes me less likely to realize the implications AND it’s really easy for me trust - questionably TOO much - when I feel comfortable. I like the boards but us folks that post with are not the only audience. Again, I’m a little weirded out.
Anyone ever have similar thoughts or am I just squirrelly?... Okay, I know I'm squirrelly but does anyone else think about this?
Posted by sleepygirl on June 27, 2006, at 22:56:54
In reply to Freaked about something I was previously, posted by Glydin on June 27, 2006, at 22:50:49
"squirrelly"?...now there is a fun term, I like squirrels
I'm squirrelly too :-)I'm super-cautious here...I really don't post a lot of details about myself. I wish I could feel otherwise, but I know that there is always some possibility that the info will be noticed (however small a chance there might be)
...people talk about this site on other sites?? ...interesting
Posted by curtm on June 27, 2006, at 23:06:25
In reply to Re: Freaked about something I was previously » Glydin, posted by sleepygirl on June 27, 2006, at 22:56:54
Personally I post info about myself with reckless abandon. I am a moron. Maybe it's another self-destruct mechanism? I and others I know do google ourselves to see what the searches hit about us though. I would recommend that as a maintenance procedure.
If you feel you need to open up about your personal info, which is normal human behavior, find a buddy and do it privately to be safe.
I really care about all the guys AND girls here.
Curt
Posted by Deneb on June 27, 2006, at 23:17:47
In reply to Freaked about something I was previously, posted by Glydin on June 27, 2006, at 22:50:49
I'm strange, I actually like how this is all public. I feel like the world is listening to me. I want the world to listen.
I like how all my innermost thoughts will exist in the archives forever. Parts of me will be in cyberspace forever. I like that. I feel like I'm making my mark on society. Without this board and the archives, no one would know my thoughts.
I do worry about my anonymity sometimes, but as long as I don't tell the world what my real name is, I think I should stay anonymous. The biggest threat is from my sister, who, unlike my parents, speak and read English and knows her way around a computer. She doesn't live at home though and I have passwords, so I'm not too worried.
Deneb*
Posted by Tabitha on June 27, 2006, at 23:58:40
In reply to Freaked about something I was previously, posted by Glydin on June 27, 2006, at 22:50:49
Oh yeah, I definitely have that concern. The permanent archiving feature bothers me the most. Any over-disclosure is going to be in there forever. And it's amazing what google can put together from a few diverse details.
Posted by Glydin on June 28, 2006, at 0:57:46
In reply to Re: Freaked about something I was previously » Glydin, posted by Tabitha on June 27, 2006, at 23:58:40
I know I’ve not thought about this as in depth as since the: “lookin’ up”. Some of the info was just fluff stuff and musings. But some of it was very painful deep stuff. I think the amount of personal details - not just emotional details - was what really struck me HARD....
To include:
Area of residence current and past with dates, also, even the type of place they lived, current and past employment - with work schedule, schools and area of study, relative’s names and details, current and past health stuff and ALL meds, email address…. even including what their last month’s cell phone bill was…. the list goes on and on…
I found all this with MAYBE 4 mouse clicks, some scrolling and reading, in ONE place, and all full disclosed just by self posting general type conversations, PROBABLY not even thinking about what they were publicly giving out. Maybe, they wouldn’t care anyway but I know it made me think.
Now, I know not everyone is as "giving" a poster as this person. But, I think alot of folks just don't think about it much in the rhythm of the humming along posting day to day participation.
I’m having a difficult time getting my mind around it all because I know I’ve disclosed ALOT the same things. As I've said, it may be of no real consequence and granted, I found info out because I looked but....D*MN, that’s a lot to find out about someone just from them posting on a public internet board.
Posted by justy0urlaugh on June 28, 2006, at 8:42:26
In reply to Re: Freaked about something I was previously, posted by Glydin on June 28, 2006, at 0:57:46
i get alot of spam about "anti-depressants" in my mail box..i wonder, is connected to this site?
i get alot of spam about "inlarging my member"..i wonder, how do they know he was so small?
Posted by justy0urlaugh on June 28, 2006, at 8:44:22
In reply to Re: Freaked about something I was previously » Glydin, posted by justy0urlaugh on June 28, 2006, at 8:42:26
my heavens..
that came out all wrong..
i was inplying my mate was a d***
Posted by Phillipa on June 28, 2006, at 12:39:00
In reply to Re: Freaked about something I was previously » justy0urlaugh, posted by justy0urlaugh on June 28, 2006, at 8:44:22
Glydin I noticed when the board was new what in 99 that people posted last names and E-mail addresses publicly on the boards is this what you mean? Love Phillipa
Posted by Glydin on June 28, 2006, at 13:08:32
In reply to Re: Freaked about something I was previously » justy0urlaugh, posted by justy0urlaugh on June 28, 2006, at 8:44:22
> my heavens..
> that came out all wrong..Nah, I got it!! (Smile)
> i was inplying my mate was a d***
>I seem to be the receiver of alot of: "Searching for hot lusty women?" queries in Spamgifts. I'm straight, but it might be interesting to know who might think I'm not, uh, entirely...
Posted by curtm on June 28, 2006, at 13:35:26
In reply to Re: Freaked about something I was previously » justy0urlaugh, posted by Glydin on June 28, 2006, at 13:08:32
Posted by Glydin on June 28, 2006, at 13:47:14
In reply to Re: Freaked about something I was previously, posted by Phillipa on June 28, 2006, at 12:39:00
> Glydin I noticed when the board was new what in 99 that people posted last names and E-mail addresses publicly on the boards is this what you mean? Love Phillipa
~~~ Not necessarily just that but the amount of personal info, generally disclosed over time as a comfortable community feel evolves, that gets told. I know for me, it's easy to think I'm just "talking" with who I'm "talking" with when posting. That isn't the case. As the section in FAQ at this site (and most public sites) remind:{to paraphrase} you're basically posting it for the whole world with computer access to find. AND, some of that information is stuff I would have a difficult time knowing strangers knew about me yet I've made it available to easily access. It makes me feel creepy to think about that.
Armed with only the info I gleamed on the person I discussed earlier, from one area and IF WHAT IS POSTED IS THE TRUTH, I could probably figure out where their home was, go visit them at work, go find ill relatives of theirs in the correct hospital and know all the scripts they had to pick up at what drugstore... this is a person I no longer have contact with and have not for quite some time... that idea scares me.
I'm not saying sharing isn't a good thing. I'm just saying I don't think folks think about the very public disclosure that is public posting.
Posted by Glydin on June 28, 2006, at 13:50:54
In reply to Omy! That's deep! (shame on self) (nm) » Glydin, posted by curtm on June 28, 2006, at 13:35:26
feeling all intellectal... it's so rare, I'm ridin' the wave inshore.... (Smile)
Posted by Phillipa on June 28, 2006, at 13:54:23
In reply to Deep Mood--- » curtm, posted by Glydin on June 28, 2006, at 13:50:54
Glydin google Melaleuca there used to be a post I posted to Spriggy there. I know what you mean now. Love Phillipa ps thank god for screen names.
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