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Posted by Deneb on May 27, 2006, at 1:31:17
Aside: My goodness, I just realized I've been online nearly the whole day on and off since 2pm! Yep, back to my old sleeping habits of sleeping past noon. :-(
Anyways...
Do you get angry easily? I think some people get angry very easily and it must feel horribly unpleasant. How do you deal with your anger? Does it last a long time?
I'm lucky in that I don't feel anger very often at all. I hardly ever get angry and I never hold grudges. I think I have a lot of patience. I'm one of those people who can get stuck in a traffic jam for hours and still find some way to enjoy myself. Same thing with long lines.
I'm pretty happy now. I don't get annoyed easily.
I remember I used to get very angry many years ago. Everything annoyed me. I think something was wrong with me then.
Deneb*
Posted by NikkiT2 on May 27, 2006, at 2:12:04
In reply to Do you get angry easily?, posted by Deneb on May 27, 2006, at 1:31:17
I do at the moment.. But then, my life is slowly imploding on me, and I have no idea how to handle it all.
I didn't used to ever get angry driving, and could calmly sit in traffic jams.. but now I drive 90 minutes each way to and from work, adding 30 minutes to that in a traffic jam throws everything out so much.. and its not the jam itself, but the other inconsiderate drivers who have no idea of anyone but themselves..
Plus, I am getting WAY too little sleep, and thats always bad for my anger..
Nikki
Posted by wildcardII on May 27, 2006, at 10:52:46
In reply to Do you get angry easily?, posted by Deneb on May 27, 2006, at 1:31:17
and my temper could have gotten me in major trouble. i realized in my old age (late 20's), that there were underlying issues within me and once i worked on those, my temper calmed...
Posted by javableue on May 27, 2006, at 19:45:05
In reply to Do you get angry easily?, posted by Deneb on May 27, 2006, at 1:31:17
I'm tempted to say that I don't tend to get angry easily, but I think it is really a case of the anger being turned inward so quickly that I don't recognise it as such. I never had anything resembling a healthy model for dealing with anger (my mom bottled it up and then lashed out with no consideration of how she hurt others, my dad was just constantly throwing a tantrum and threatening people), so I never quite know what to do.
It frightens me, though. When I do get angry, I get ANGRY. I've never done anything physically, but I have said some pretty ugly things to people and - perhaps worse - meant them. It definitely isn't a problem in my everyday life, but I do need to learn how to better manage it.
Traffic doesn't bother me much, either... I am a calm driver; I have to be or I couldn't drive safely. On the other hand, I can be a pretty grumpy pedestrian... (though that probably falls more into the category of irritation).
jb
Posted by Deneb on May 27, 2006, at 21:10:05
In reply to Re: Do you get angry easily? » Deneb, posted by NikkiT2 on May 27, 2006, at 2:12:04
I hope you get more sleep soon. Lack of sleep makes me hyper, then after a long while, weepy.
Deneb*
Posted by Phillipa on May 27, 2006, at 21:58:35
In reply to i used to fly off the handle » Deneb, posted by wildcardII on May 27, 2006, at 10:52:46
Wildcard give me a break old age late 20's? Then I am ancient. Love Phillipa ps did you get the black snakes?
Posted by sleepygirl on May 27, 2006, at 23:59:25
In reply to Do you get angry easily?, posted by Deneb on May 27, 2006, at 1:31:17
depends on my mood and my lovely menstrual cycle
some days I am unflappable, other days I am a raving, irrational, illogical, hypersensitive, labile, mercurial mess....I hate those days
let's hear it for feeling unannoyed :-)
Posted by Larry Hoover on May 28, 2006, at 7:31:03
In reply to Do you get angry easily?, posted by Deneb on May 27, 2006, at 1:31:17
> Do you get angry easily? I think some people get angry very easily and it must feel horribly unpleasant. How do you deal with your anger? Does it last a long time?
Less than I used to. And it depends on a number of factors. I express myself, let it go. I don't store it. Stored emotions never die.
Lar
Posted by Dinah on May 30, 2006, at 21:25:44
In reply to Re: Do you get angry easily? » Deneb, posted by Larry Hoover on May 28, 2006, at 7:31:03
I think it can sometimes be a step forward to get angry. Not fly off the handle all the time, but to recognize and responsibly express anger. It's all too easy to convert it into something less scary without even realizing it, and discharge it in less direct ways. Or to go the other direction and rage about everything, but not recognize the real source of the anger.
I wonder if accepting and reacting appropriately to anger is one of the steps along the path to growing up, or wisdom, or something.
I am scared of anger, and have a long way to go to handling it responsibly in myself or when it's expressed by others.
Posted by Deneb on May 30, 2006, at 21:53:45
In reply to Re: Do you get angry easily?, posted by Dinah on May 30, 2006, at 21:25:44
> I wonder if accepting and reacting appropriately to anger is one of the steps along the path to growing up, or wisdom, or something.
I think you're on to something there.
I don't deal well with anger. I tend to do the feet stomping thing...literally.
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> I am scared of anger, and have a long way to go to handling it responsibly in myself or when it's expressed by others.I really dislike anger. I don't like to feel it. Since my sister has gone away for university, I hardly ever get angry now.
Deneb*
Posted by Donna Louise on June 4, 2006, at 5:56:28
In reply to Re: Do you get angry easily?, posted by Deneb on May 30, 2006, at 21:53:45
When I was a kid, my mother would barge into my bedroom and start telling me that it was all my fault that her life sucked, basically. We would get in screaming matches about it. It wasn't until I was 16 and my boyfriend witnessed one of those bouts that he was able to ask me why was I fighting with her since she was drunk. I didn't know she was drunk. It was like, oh, duh, no wonder. And that is the last I fought with her. After I moved out I stopped talking to her at all after 5pm and that way we had fairly good relationship comparatively speaking. My dad, would store it and then have a rage which was terrifying. So my early experiences with anger were not healthily modeled to say the least. I hate expressions of anger, I am afraid of them but a long time ago I asked my husband when he was mad at me to please tell me he still loved me and that he wasn't going anywhere and then I was reassured enough to hear what his point was. I get easily enraged, I remember being under 5 the first time it happened and once I remember blacking out and falling off my bed I got so angry that a hair roller (we used to roll our hair..) wouldn't act right. It is one of the first things to tell me my meds aren't working. I am having a little trouble with it right now actually. But Ihaven't taken a hatchet to a hose when it gets a kink in it. Yet. And it has been over 20 years since I put my hand or foot through the wall.
Donna
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