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Posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 12:33:05
In reply to Re: Met crushedout today for coffee » Atticus, posted by anastasia56 on December 20, 2004, at 12:18:50
To which I can only answer, "42." ;) Atticus, who particularly likes Zaphod Beeblebrox
Posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 15:00:56
In reply to Re: Met crushedout today for coffee » alesta, posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 11:18:19
hello 'atti',:)
i've thought more about this unapproachability thing, and i think it's more that you communicate a certain emotional distance. (so rest easy, you are by no means scary or intimidating in the traditional sense.)
as for the book, i never read it!! i'm, like, such a loser. <popping bubblegum> i saw the movie when i was a kid, which i loved, so after watching the movie i wasn't particularly interested in reading it.
you stay chilled, too, papi.
amy:)
p.s. i'm sure glad you consider me one of the people you 'like'.:) i wouldn't want no clarice starling action with mr. lector, if you know what i mean...<kidding!>
Posted by Jai Narayan on December 20, 2004, at 18:53:00
In reply to Re: Met crushedout today for coffee » Atticus, posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 15:00:56
spiked hair, many colors?
lean and lithe?
leather clothes?
boots?
facial hair?
the blue eyes I know.
neatly trimmed beard, well fed, paisley clothes?
smoking a pipe, patches at the elbows of your pea green sweater?
army fatigues?
It would be so interesting for all of us to describe our selves. I am so curious.
it's like a mystery.
Ja*
Posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 19:04:33
In reply to Re: Met crushedout today for coffee » Atticus, posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 15:00:56
Hmm. I'm not sure that communicating "emotional distance" unintentionally isn't even worse. Guess I need to think on this. Atticus
Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 20, 2004, at 19:05:50
In reply to atticus, what do you look like?, posted by Jai Narayan on December 20, 2004, at 18:53:00
Jai I do not read much on the boards but did open this..I thought atticus was a gal? beard?? I am lost
Posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 19:19:54
In reply to atticus, what do you look like?, posted by Jai Narayan on December 20, 2004, at 18:53:00
Hi Jai,
I guess I look pretty much like I've described myself in poems in the past. Six feet tall, about 180 lbs., spiky dark hair, pale Irish skin, blue eyes, slightly arched eyebrows. This time of year, I generally wear a fraying black leather motorcycle jacket over a flannel shirt over a t-shirt. Blue or black jeans. Steel-toed Harley-Davidson boots.
I have a question in return. Do you get the same sense of "emotional distance" radiating from me as Amy (Alesta)? For some reason, that description really stings. I don't know why it hurts, but it does. Maybe it's more accurate than I'd like it to be? Or maybe I feel it's unfair? I don't know. What's your take? I'd be curious to know. Ta. Atticus
Posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 19:25:17
In reply to Re: Met crushedout today for coffee, posted by crushedout on December 18, 2004, at 21:25:50
Hullo crushedout,
I just posted a little poem about meeting you at the coffee shop. It's on Writing. Ta. ;) Atti
Posted by Jai Narayan on December 20, 2004, at 19:48:46
In reply to Re: atticus, what do you look like? » Jai Narayan, posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 19:19:54
I have always felt completely close to you.
You are my kin and linage.
You speak my language and I think you are on the top of my list of beloved people....
so what do you think?
No...I feel absolutely no distance.
you are immediate and real....
so real it hurts sometimes.
I am right there with you.
your buddy and loyal friend even when you push me away....
how about that...
I even wait around for you to come back...
I really care about you.
Ja*
Posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 19:53:58
In reply to Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...no..., posted by Jai Narayan on December 20, 2004, at 19:48:46
Sorry, Jai, I didn't mean to imply you had said anything like that. But Alesta did, and it has me kind of upset. I just needed to get some feedback from someone else. I trust you more than anyone else on PB, so I turned to you. Thanks so much for responding. I really needed that. Ta, luv. ;) Atticus
Posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 20:03:49
In reply to Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...no..., posted by Jai Narayan on December 20, 2004, at 19:48:46
> I have always felt completely close to you.
> You are my kin and linage.
> You speak my language and I think you are on the top of my list of beloved people....
> so what do you think?
> No...I feel absolutely no distance.
> you are immediate and real....
> so real it hurts sometimes.
> I am right there with you.
> your buddy and loyal friend even when you push me away....
> how about that...
> I even wait around for you to come back...
> I really care about you.
> Ja*
i'm glad you posted your perceptions of atticus, jai. i should have also reiterated again that it was only my individual perception; it could have no basis in reality, and i probably shouldn't have mentioned it. it's just me, atticus. don't worry about it! sometimes i need to keep my thoughts to myself..:) sure hope nobody's mad at me!:)amy:)
Posted by Jai Narayan on December 20, 2004, at 20:15:25
In reply to Re: Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...no..., posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 20:03:49
my goodness,
you are a wonderful person.
Never doubt your own perceptions.
I have known Atticus for half a year and am bonded to his being.
that does not mean you should have the same feelings I do.
you are a you, a unique person with your own feelings, I honor them and respect you.
If there is something that is disquieting for you about Atticus then explore it. Often we take so much to such a perception.
this is neither good or bad....it's just us.
"All of life is talking to me"....to quote Laurie Anderson.
In every experience there is a teacher.
I am here to learn.remember you are good, important and real.
I will listen.
Jai
Posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 20:18:47
In reply to Re: atticus, what do you look like? » Jai Narayan, posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 19:19:54
hi atticus,
i just read what you wrote. i didn't realize what i said would be interpreted as a bad thing or would hurt anyone's feelings when i said it. i'm really sorry. i can't believe i might've upset you and jai, two people i like and respect. i just can't do much of anything right lately.amy
Posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 20:37:32
In reply to amy dear sweet person....., posted by Jai Narayan on December 20, 2004, at 20:15:25
> my goodness,
> you are a wonderful person.
> Never doubt your own perceptions.
> I have known Atticus for half a year and am bonded to his being.
> that does not mean you should have the same feelings I do.
> you are a you, a unique person with your own feelings, I honor them and respect you.
> If there is something that is disquieting for you about Atticus then explore it. Often we take so much to such a perception.
> this is neither good or bad....it's just us.
> "All of life is talking to me"....to quote Laurie Anderson.
> In every experience there is a teacher.
> I am here to learn.
>
> remember you are good, important and real.
> I will listen.
> Jaidearest jai, thank you for not being upset with me..you are always such a calm, soothing, enjoyable presence. you are really lovely.:) this place can be a difficult venue at times. i feel kind of upset..i need to think, too. it's nice to know you're there to listen if i need you. thank you!!
amy:)
Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 20, 2004, at 21:34:56
In reply to Re: amy dear sweet person..... » Jai Narayan, posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 20:37:32
It is all online and people really do not know ALL about us and such unless they meet and spend a lot of time together. Heck even engaged and married people LEARN things about their spouse years after they are married. Maybe moving on would be helpful here for all of you?
Just a peacful thought
Posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 21:37:48
In reply to Re: Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...no..., posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 20:03:49
You should always feel free to be honest, Amy. If that's the way you feel, then that's the way you feel. I don't understand why you feel that way -- it kind of hit me out of left field, given our past interactions -- but as Jai said, it's certainly your right. Thing is, it can't help but affect the way I feel. Please don't feel bad. I just need time to think. Maybe a lot of people on PB feel the same way you do. I don't know. But that thought sure makes me uncomfortable about posting. Guess I should've just stuck to poems. I just wanted more interaction with others; but if I'm coming across as emotionally chilly, then I'm failing to connect anyway. Atticus
Posted by crushedout on December 20, 2004, at 21:51:03
In reply to Re: Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...no... » alesta, posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 21:37:48
Atticus,I'm not sure I'm any good at this, but I'd like to see if I can help at all. (My first instinct was to mind my own business.)
First, I think "chilly" is taking what Amy said too far. She said "distant," right? I think a lot of that could be related to your obvious intelligence and that makes people feel intimidated. For all you know, Amy is just projecting onto you, and it has nothing to do with you. I think she'd be the first one to agree that that's a possibility (correct me if I'm wrong, Amy). You shouldn't assume that you *are* distant, even if she perceives you that way.
But even if there's a grain of truth in what she said, I don't think it means (in the slightest) that you're failing to connect. I'm sure that's wrong in fact. Jai and amy clearly *do* feel connected to you, *I* felt "connected" enough (or intrigued, anyway) to ask you to meet for coffee, and I'm sure there are others (I don't know you that well).
Please don't regret having ventured into Social. You are an enormously valuable addition to it, and I don't think anyone of us wants to lose you.
just my two cents,
crushedout
Posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 22:23:29
In reply to Re: Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...no... » alesta, posted by Atticus on December 20, 2004, at 21:37:48
> You should always feel free to be honest, Amy. If that's the way you feel, then that's the way you feel. I don't understand why you feel that way -- it kind of hit me out of left field, given our past interactions -- but as Jai said, it's certainly your right. Thing is, it can't help but affect the way I feel. Please don't feel bad. I just need time to think. Maybe a lot of people on PB feel the same way you do. I don't know. But that thought sure makes me uncomfortable about posting. Guess I should've just stuck to poems. I just wanted more interaction with others; but if I'm coming across as emotionally chilly, then I'm failing to connect anyway. Atticus
thanks for replying..i'm going to be totally honest and let stuff spill out (my style), so i have no idea how this is going to go over..atticus, please don't stop posting here over this. you're going to get a lot of babblers really pissed at me, lol.:) they love you, atty. you're fun and nice and smart. you're perfect for this forum. it's ok if you don't like me too much anymore, although shocking to me. i guess i have to accept that, although of course it makes me a bit sad. i was kind of planning on leaving here anyway. you were actually one of the things that kept me here. although most of my blunders are usually on admin, i can't believe i hurt you. just please don't run..
i don't even know what i should say right now. but i tried my best. i have a hard time being friends with guys anyway, so maybe this will save me some heartache, lol (looking on the bright side:)) i think it'll all be ok. stay here..the crowd loves you!!! :-)
amy:)
Posted by crushedout on December 20, 2004, at 22:34:02
In reply to Re: Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...no... » Atticus, posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 22:23:29
i barely know you, but i'd miss you. please don't go. you're cool, funny, and smart.
Posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 22:37:14
In reply to Re: Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...n » Atticus, posted by crushedout on December 20, 2004, at 21:51:03
>
> Atticus,
>
> I'm not sure I'm any good at this, but I'd like to see if I can help at all. (My first instinct was to mind my own business.)
>
> First, I think "chilly" is taking what Amy said too far. She said "distant," right? I think a lot of that could be related to your obvious intelligence and that makes people feel intimidated. For all you know, Amy is just projecting onto you, and it has nothing to do with you. I think she'd be the first one to agree that that's a possibility (correct me if I'm wrong, Amy). You shouldn't assume that you *are* distant, even if she perceives you that way.
>
> But even if there's a grain of truth in what she said, I don't think it means (in the slightest) that you're failing to connect. I'm sure that's wrong in fact. Jai and amy clearly *do* feel connected to you, *I* felt "connected" enough (or intrigued, anyway) to ask you to meet for coffee, and I'm sure there are others (I don't know you that well).
>
> Please don't regret having ventured into Social. You are an enormously valuable addition to it, and I don't think anyone of us wants to lose you.
>
> just my two cents,
> crushedouthi crushed:),
you said that so amazingly well..all of those are very good points! thank you for illuminating that..and, yes, i do feel connected to atticus. i hope he didn't think that i didn't..crushed, you are very 'good at this,' lol. feel free to attempt to clear up my misunderstandings anytime.:) it was really kind of you to try and help.
thanks again,:)
amy
Posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 22:46:38
In reply to don't you leave either » alesta, posted by crushedout on December 20, 2004, at 22:34:02
>
oh, thanks! how nice of you to say that.:) i'm really touched. maybe we all just need to sleep on it?...or go get an enema or something.:) i don't know..it'll work out somehow.take care :-)
amy
Posted by crushedout on December 20, 2004, at 22:47:10
In reply to Re: Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...n » crushedout, posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 22:37:14
i'm so glad if i was helpful
Posted by crushedout on December 20, 2004, at 22:48:45
In reply to Re: don't you leave either » crushedout, posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 22:46:38
yeah, this feels like something that oughta blow over. we'll see
Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 20, 2004, at 22:53:00
In reply to Re: don't you leave either » alesta, posted by crushedout on December 20, 2004, at 22:48:45
I think I suggested that up above.
PEACE
Posted by anastasia56 on December 20, 2004, at 23:53:43
In reply to Re: Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...no... » Atticus, posted by alesta on December 20, 2004, at 22:23:29
so it's a deal then...amy is a peach we love and adore...atticus is the squirrel that lives in the tree we love...so they both must stay! Anyone who reads the Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy is worth fighting to keep on board!!!
anastasia
Posted by Jai Narayan on December 21, 2004, at 7:25:12
In reply to Re: Atticus....distance???no, did I say no yet...no..., posted by anastasia56 on December 20, 2004, at 23:53:43
not to mention the holidays.
so much energy.
I enjoy both Atticus and Amy.
LOVED the little humorous story that was going on another thread...
I would dearly miss delightful creative story making if either one decided to vacate this board.
Ja*
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