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Posted by emmanuel98 on June 20, 2010, at 20:21:25
I spent 5 years in weekly therapy with my p-doc. I had such intense feelings for him and it was hard to end, even though we had little to talk about and had worked through most of my issues. Now I am seeing him once a month or once every two months for meds. I find it so painful to see him. I can't accept the loss of him as this important, loving person in my life.
I've actually started to think about finding another p-doc to prescribe medications so I don't have to have this wound opened up over and over again. On the other hand, I can't bear the thought of never seeing him again.
I just saw him on Thursday and have been crying ever since. He wants me to see another therapist. I have been seeing this woman, a social worker whom I like a lot, every two or three weeks. He thinks I should see her every week and work through my grief with her.
I feel so bereft.
Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2010, at 20:49:44
In reply to missing p-doc, posted by emmanuel98 on June 20, 2010, at 20:21:25
I guess I see his point.
But in some ways the whole system seems so screwed up sometimes. You shouldn't need to have therapy to recover from therapy. And maybe the fact that you're grieving so much means that you weren't really through with therapy. With him.
Still, when something like this happens, it's hard not to wonder if they appear to be more of a loving figure in our lives than they actually are...
I sometimes think I'm in the phase of therapy where I recognize, mourn, and accept all the things my therapist *isn't* to me. I wish all therapists were patient enough to go through this phase with their clients. (I have my doubts that my therapist is even aware that he's going through this phase with me.)
Posted by emmanuel98 on June 20, 2010, at 23:31:38
In reply to Re: missing p-doc, posted by Dinah on June 20, 2010, at 20:49:44
He said in our last visit that I has to give up this fantasy that I could see him forwver and always
Posted by Verloren on June 21, 2010, at 13:20:02
In reply to Re: missing p-doc, posted by Dinah on June 20, 2010, at 20:49:44
"I sometimes think I'm in the phase of therapy where I recognize, mourn, and accept all the things my therapist *isn't* to me. I wish all therapists were patient enough to go through this phase with their clients. (I have my doubts that my therapist is even aware that he's going through this phase with me.) "
Dinah,
I can't wait til I get there. As it is, I'm firmly stuck in the phase where, in my mind, Ada has many more roles than just being my therapist.
I can visualize it though. Especially the mourning; sitting there as I quietly murmur, "You really aren't my mom hmm".
-v
Posted by Dinah on June 21, 2010, at 20:28:04
In reply to Re: missing p-doc » Dinah, posted by Verloren on June 21, 2010, at 13:20:02
Yep. That's pretty much what it looks like. :)
But not in a bad way. Always before it was a hurt and angry thought. Now, not so much.
Of course, dangle termination in front of my and my attitude may quickly regress to twining myself around his legs like a boa constrictor.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on June 24, 2010, at 14:57:13
In reply to Re: missing p-doc » Verloren, posted by Dinah on June 21, 2010, at 20:28:04
Oh, (((Dinah))) You crack me up ("boa constrictor)...still seeing my t after 7 years and eventually I will not have the money t do so; trying to psych. myself up. Oh, that didn't work! LOL
hugs, Sassy
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