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Posted by Deneb on April 22, 2009, at 0:02:17
Pdoc says I am wasting my energy trying to get Dr. Bob to respond/go out with me for dinner because he will not give in.
I need to do more productive things. She says looking for work is good and planning for the trip is good.
Posted by 10derHeart on April 22, 2009, at 0:37:34
In reply to Pdoc says I am wasting my energy, posted by Deneb on April 22, 2009, at 0:02:17
What do you think?
Posted by Annierose on April 22, 2009, at 8:52:08
In reply to Pdoc says I am wasting my energy, posted by Deneb on April 22, 2009, at 0:02:17
I think she is right in telling you that you could be using that "thinking time" on areas of your life that you are in control of ... areas you can change. Dr. Bob's actions or inactions are not within anyone's real life circle on babble. Think of it in terms of a celebrity crush (alhtough in no means do I think Dr. Bob is a celebrity). You may think you know that person from the limited media exposure, and may have even met a celebrity, but you really do not "know" the person.
Posted by 99 % on April 22, 2009, at 14:36:34
In reply to Pdoc says I am wasting my energy, posted by Deneb on April 22, 2009, at 0:02:17
> Pdoc says I am wasting my energy trying to get Dr. Bob to respond/go out with me for dinner because he will not give in.
>While I think you would like things to go your way as most of us usually do, at this point, I have a feeling you're searching for an answer, a reason and something other than your own and other's speculations. I fear you won't receive anything that will satisfy or that mets your expectations. I don't think we always have to understand a response or in this case lack of a response to accept it is simply an "is" and attempt to move on. I know in a light of the trend to analyze everything, this isn't a generally accepted idea but there are times it's the best path to take, IMO.
Posted by DarkStarEtc on April 22, 2009, at 21:28:06
In reply to Pdoc says I am wasting my energy, posted by Deneb on April 22, 2009, at 0:02:17
Deneb, I'm sorry I didn't respond to your thread re. meditation... I've been away from the computer for a few days so I just wanted to let you know that I've replied to your question about that.
DrkStar.Etc.
Posted by raisinb on April 23, 2009, at 16:56:20
In reply to Pdoc says I am wasting my energy, posted by Deneb on April 22, 2009, at 0:02:17
Well, he might not give in. But I don't think talking about your feelings and trying to understand what they mean to you is a waste of time. As a matter of fact, your feelings are at the heart of your emotional life right now. They are important, and you need to discuss them in therapy.
I don't think the important question really is whether Dr. Bob will or won't have dinner with you. I know it feels like that now, but in ten years, I doubt whether or not you had the "date" will matter. I think the important thing is that you work on these feelings and use them to get to a new, transformational place in your own life. That is what will matter in the long term.
Take care, and I wish you peace.
(((Deneb)))
Posted by SLS on April 26, 2009, at 20:17:41
In reply to Re: Pdoc says I am wasting my energy » Deneb, posted by raisinb on April 23, 2009, at 16:56:20
Hi Deneb.
I agree with Raisinb.
Feelings are not a waste of time or energy. Feelings just are. They are the culmination of the biological and historical self as they exist in the moment. You could be no other way than the way you are right now. One productive expenditure of time and energy might be to explore the feelings you have for Robert Hsiung, MD. You might not be able to change feelings, but you can change the thoughts that generate them.
What are the thoughts you have that allow you to continue to have feelings for Dr. Hsiung?
Do you want to continue to have feelings for Dr. Hsiung? If so, that's okay with me.
If one day you come to believe that it is no longer in your best interests to have these feelings for the doctor, you alone must make the decision to change.
I know how good it feels to have romantic feelings for another, even if they are not requited. Passion is intensely rewarding.
When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of change... I'm sure you can figure the rest out for yourself.
- Scott
Posted by Deneb on April 27, 2009, at 0:43:41
In reply to Re: Pdoc says I am wasting my energy, posted by SLS on April 26, 2009, at 20:17:41
Thanks for all your responses everyone.
Just one thing to note though, I am not romantically attracted to Dr. Bob. LOL
I just love him. I get a comfy feeling when I think of him (usually). I say, "I love you Dr. Bob" to myself to self soothe. It is kind of weird lol. I have to watch it, sometimes I say it too loudly. rofl
Cameras would catch me saying that just before I go to sleep, or walking home from the bus stop after work.
I like loving Bob. I want to love him forever.
It is comfy, soothing.
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