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Posted by rubenstein on January 13, 2007, at 19:53:21
I am conducting this Requiem for my friends that died. My teachers have made it into an impossible situation, so judgemental and ugly. I just want to give up. My T has been there for me this week and I am trying to rely on his strength. HAs anybody done that? HAd their T's stregth carry them through when they couldn't themselves.
I am just so anxious and so sad.
and I don't know what to do
rubenstein
Posted by Daisym on January 14, 2007, at 2:13:38
In reply to so sad (poss trigger), posted by rubenstein on January 13, 2007, at 19:53:21
I'm sorry for your loss, these anniversaries and memory moments are so hard.
I think many of us have relied on our therapist's strength and faith at one time or another. My therapist often tells me that he is holding the hope for me until I can really feel it for myself. In fact, he has said it enough that for Christmas I gave him a wall plaque with a quote about the soul's hope.
I'm sorry your teacher's are making things harder than they already are. Some people just don't understand. I'm glad you have some one who does.
Hang in there,
Daisy
Posted by happykat on January 14, 2007, at 10:33:44
In reply to so sad (poss trigger), posted by rubenstein on January 13, 2007, at 19:53:21
rubenstein,
I'm sorry to hear about your friends. It's nice that you're doing something in remembrance of them.
I have often used my t's words of guidance, wisdom and hope to pull me through rough times. I have a highlight reel in my head of encouraging and soothing things my t has said during therapy which I borrow from whenever I need it. I just replay whatever is applicable over and over to help keep myself centered and give me the strength to handle whatever is going on.
I am truly sorry to hear about your friends. Good luck with the Requiem. Be well, stay safe.
Regards,
happykat
Posted by canadagirl on January 14, 2007, at 21:34:18
In reply to so sad (poss trigger), posted by rubenstein on January 13, 2007, at 19:53:21
That is a very hard thing you have to do, just do the best you can and get through it the best you can. I've never relied on my therapist in a situation such as this but it sure helps to know there is someone in your corner when you need it.And your therapist will be there for you and be thinking about you for sure.
Posted by Honore on January 15, 2007, at 11:48:03
In reply to so sad (poss trigger), posted by rubenstein on January 13, 2007, at 19:53:21
rubenstein, don't let your teachers spoil it. Teachers have a way of doing that-- some teachers, anyway. The rotten ones, that is. (Ie the ones who, however great at what they do are lousy teachers, ie don't know how to help people become more of what they can be). They ruin things, and destroy futures. That really p***es me off. It's much more common, though, than anyone admits.
I'd say, try to use your T. If your T is someone who supports your desire to conduct the Requiem and in the act of conducting it, to remember your friends-- definitely let him carry you through this. And through other things, too.
When is the Requiem?
Honore
Posted by rubenstein on January 15, 2007, at 18:33:27
In reply to Re: so sad (poss trigger) » rubenstein, posted by Honore on January 15, 2007, at 11:48:03
Thanks for everyones' advice. I think I am going to try and go through with it. I feel guilty being sad all the time with my T, I should probably talk about that with him tomorrow but it makes me nervous. I did find out that the professor won't be on my comitte because we get a grade on our performance...which is reiculous in my mind. Anyway, its a long time until Feb 12th so I am going to have to find some way that is not harmful to cope.
thanks again for the support....anyone have any other ideas
rubenstein
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