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Posted by pinkeye on July 28, 2005, at 18:52:42
Hope you are feeling better.
Posted by shrinking violet on July 28, 2005, at 21:37:03
In reply to SV - Thinking of you.. Are you allright??, posted by pinkeye on July 28, 2005, at 18:52:42
> Hope you are feeling better.
{{{{{{{{{pinkeye}}}}}}}}}}You're so sweet to think of me, thank you!
I'm....okay, I guess. Some days are harder than others. I'm trying to put my T out of my mind, but it's hard, especially since I dream about her often. I should be entering residential treatment for anorexia within a couple of weeks, so I'm trying to keep my panic to a minimum (difficult!). It's hard, not having anyone to process all of these things in my head with, and espeically holding inside all of the wonderings and questions and things I wish I could say to my T. I'm sure you know how hard that can be, unfortunately.
Aaaaaaaaaaand I was stung by a bee last week. So, yeah, it's been a rough summer so far. ;-)
Thank you again for thinking of me. I cannot tell you how much it means to me!
Take care,
sv
Posted by Shortelise on July 29, 2005, at 11:09:44
In reply to Re: SV - Thinking of you.. Are you allright?? » pinkeye, posted by shrinking violet on July 28, 2005, at 21:37:03
(((Violet!)))
Ideas about dreams:
Dreams are a way of processing, done on a plane that's non-threatening for the most part.
When I dream of my T, it's really layered. First of all, there is my real relationship with him, and tons of stuff to think about there.
Then there's the projections. The people he represents to me.
Then there's a "me" that he represents.
And surely other stuff I'm not aware of.When I dream of him, I can be in any of those "relationships". So if I need to understand what's going on in my poor beleaguered dreaming psyche, I keep an open mind to all those parts invloved.
What I am thinking, Violet, is that if you are dreaming about her a lot, you are probably doing some really good processing all on your very own. If you wanted to you could write those dreams down and think about them. Or you can just let your mind do its thing, and trust that good stuff is going on there.
Take good care, Ms. Violet. I hope the treatment program is one that suits your needs. In the meantime, we're here! We'll listen. We care.
ShortE
Posted by pinkeye on July 29, 2005, at 14:36:15
In reply to Re: SV - Thinking of you.. Are you allright?? » pinkeye, posted by shrinking violet on July 28, 2005, at 21:37:03
Posted by shrinking violet on July 30, 2005, at 13:08:24
In reply to dreams » shrinking violet, posted by Shortelise on July 29, 2005, at 11:09:44
Hi ShortE,
Thank you for your words of encouragement.
Thankfully thus far, my dreams of my T are always very comforting....She is always warm and welcoming toward me. These dreams are very vivid and detailed, and I am able to hold onto them and remember them (which isn't unusual for me, anyway, as my dreams in general tend to be that way). I'm hoping that her reaction to me in the dreams is indicative of how she still feels towards me now, but, of course, I'll never know that for sure.I haven't tried to analyze them too much thus far, in terms of representations and meanings. It could be too painful to do so right now anyway; the dreams alone are sometimes comforting, temporarily, but they also irritate the "missing" and so can be painful in some ways also. I guess right now I'm just taking them as they are presented to me, as two people who meant something to each other (or at least she to me) and whose bond may not be as broken as I sometimes feel it is.
Thanks again.
sv
> (((Violet!)))
>
> Ideas about dreams:
>
> Dreams are a way of processing, done on a plane that's non-threatening for the most part.
>
> When I dream of my T, it's really layered. First of all, there is my real relationship with him, and tons of stuff to think about there.
> Then there's the projections. The people he represents to me.
> Then there's a "me" that he represents.
> And surely other stuff I'm not aware of.
>
> When I dream of him, I can be in any of those "relationships". So if I need to understand what's going on in my poor beleaguered dreaming psyche, I keep an open mind to all those parts invloved.
>
> What I am thinking, Violet, is that if you are dreaming about her a lot, you are probably doing some really good processing all on your very own. If you wanted to you could write those dreams down and think about them. Or you can just let your mind do its thing, and trust that good stuff is going on there.
>
> Take good care, Ms. Violet. I hope the treatment program is one that suits your needs. In the meantime, we're here! We'll listen. We care.
>
> ShortE
>
Posted by Poet on July 30, 2005, at 13:23:33
In reply to Re: SV - Thinking of you.. Are you allright?? » pinkeye, posted by shrinking violet on July 28, 2005, at 21:37:03
Hi SV,
We're to help you process or at least give you a place to let out some of those thoughts. I so understand repetitive thoughts of things you wish you could do over.
Keep trying hard to avoid panic about the residential program. Post. Babblemail me.
Poet
Posted by daisym on July 30, 2005, at 14:08:31
In reply to Re: dreams » Shortelise, posted by shrinking violet on July 30, 2005, at 13:08:24
***I guess right now I'm just taking them as they are presented to me, as two people who meant something to each other (or at least she to me) and whose bond may not be as broken as I sometimes feel it is. ***
What a lovely way to frame this. I think that is a great way to interpret your dreams and allow yourself the comfort they offer. I'm sure you meant and still mean a lot to her.
Good luck with the treatment program. I can imagine it is scary as heck but think of the good it will do you.
Gentle hugs,
Daisy
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