Posted by shrinking violet on July 30, 2005, at 13:08:24
In reply to dreams » shrinking violet, posted by Shortelise on July 29, 2005, at 11:09:44
Hi ShortE,
Thank you for your words of encouragement.
Thankfully thus far, my dreams of my T are always very comforting....She is always warm and welcoming toward me. These dreams are very vivid and detailed, and I am able to hold onto them and remember them (which isn't unusual for me, anyway, as my dreams in general tend to be that way). I'm hoping that her reaction to me in the dreams is indicative of how she still feels towards me now, but, of course, I'll never know that for sure.I haven't tried to analyze them too much thus far, in terms of representations and meanings. It could be too painful to do so right now anyway; the dreams alone are sometimes comforting, temporarily, but they also irritate the "missing" and so can be painful in some ways also. I guess right now I'm just taking them as they are presented to me, as two people who meant something to each other (or at least she to me) and whose bond may not be as broken as I sometimes feel it is.
Thanks again.
sv
> (((Violet!)))
>
> Ideas about dreams:
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> Dreams are a way of processing, done on a plane that's non-threatening for the most part.
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> When I dream of my T, it's really layered. First of all, there is my real relationship with him, and tons of stuff to think about there.
> Then there's the projections. The people he represents to me.
> Then there's a "me" that he represents.
> And surely other stuff I'm not aware of.
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> When I dream of him, I can be in any of those "relationships". So if I need to understand what's going on in my poor beleaguered dreaming psyche, I keep an open mind to all those parts invloved.
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> What I am thinking, Violet, is that if you are dreaming about her a lot, you are probably doing some really good processing all on your very own. If you wanted to you could write those dreams down and think about them. Or you can just let your mind do its thing, and trust that good stuff is going on there.
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> Take good care, Ms. Violet. I hope the treatment program is one that suits your needs. In the meantime, we're here! We'll listen. We care.
>
> ShortE
>
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