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Posted by B2chica on April 26, 2004, at 14:51:56
Therapy is new for me and i don't think i'm adjusting well. To begin with i have MAJOR trust issues and have had three visits and only talking about surface stuff, but he was ready to jump right in the first day. Every time we've meet since, i think about things i need to say- then when i get there i don't want to say them i feel strong enough to handle them on my own. Then when our session is done, typically sometime that night or the next day i have an "episode"-crying/screaming and anger all mixed together, i know it's cuz i feel uncomfortable with the things i did say in the session (although what i've said really isn't that telling, but it is more than i would tell anyone after seeing them three times. Then it starts all over again...
Also, i think/analyze things alot and during the week i think about past stuff, recently i've had quite a few disturbing memories come to me, i know eventually i need to talk about them but i can't get them out...at times i yell out for them to go away i feel their so bad, and other times i look at others and think my troubles are NOTHING compared to others, it is then that i feel the strength to not talk in session, the strength to know i can push it down again.
Heeeeelp!
i'm driving myself bonkers...if i keep at this i guarantee i will be back in the hospital for sure.
Any advice welcome.
B2c.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on April 26, 2004, at 17:26:33
In reply to Advice/help for sessions, posted by B2chica on April 26, 2004, at 14:51:56
Maybe you could write it all out and then take it to your session.....see if you can share some or all of it then...Its still very early in therapy to open up all the way ...best of luck and please keep us posted on how it goes
Posted by Aphrodite on April 26, 2004, at 17:30:54
In reply to Advice/help for sessions, posted by B2chica on April 26, 2004, at 14:51:56
I went through the same thing. I think I divulged too quickly and before it felt safe to do so. I just wanted to get out of therapy as soon as possible. I too became emotionally flooded like you. Perhaps you need to have a session or two in which you work on self-soothing skills and ways to contain your powerful emotions. My T made a meditation tape for me that was very helpful. This is rough stuff, and it so surprising how it affects you. You can't just turn it off at the end of the hour. Good luck.
Posted by B2chica on April 26, 2004, at 18:33:22
In reply to Re: Advice/help for sessions » B2chica, posted by Aphrodite on April 26, 2004, at 17:30:54
Thanks folks, my session is tomorrow late afternoon. i have tried the writing down thing it sort of helped but that's when i felt overwhelmed ending up using one of my not-so-great "coping skills".
i was honest and told him about my reactions and how i was concerned,-he has been great and very supportive, which is helping me to trust him more.
Maybe if i get the strength up i might lay a little on you guys just to get used to saying stuff outloud...maybe not...just not sure about anything anymore.Except i do feel safe coming here to babble.
thanks.
B2c.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on April 26, 2004, at 19:03:38
In reply to Re: Advice/help for sessions, posted by B2chica on April 26, 2004, at 18:33:22
Its the perfect place to post cause we do not know you in real life and its not face to face....maybe keep what you wrote share one thing with t and or talk just about the existance of the list...?
hugs
> Thanks folks, my session is tomorrow late afternoon. i have tried the writing down thing it sort of helped but that's when i felt overwhelmed ending up using one of my not-so-great "coping skills".
> i was honest and told him about my reactions and how i was concerned,-he has been great and very supportive, which is helping me to trust him more.
> Maybe if i get the strength up i might lay a little on you guys just to get used to saying stuff outloud...maybe not...just not sure about anything anymore.
>
> Except i do feel safe coming here to babble.
> thanks.
> B2c.
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2004, at 21:13:26
In reply to Advice/help for sessions, posted by B2chica on April 26, 2004, at 14:51:56
Do you have any idea whether or not this is short term or long term therapy? After three sessions very few people do. :) But if it's limited by insurance, you'll have some idea.
If your therapy isn't time limited, then perhaps you can step back a bit. OK, I'm not sure of the correct way to express this, but it's something like concentrate on the process rather than the content? Something like that. In other words, be honest about the struggle you're having communicating rather than try to force yourself to communicate certain information. Talk about how odd it feels to feel compelled to trust someone after three meetings. And then move to the disturbing things you need to communicate more slowly as you build a relationship.
How well that works depends on the therapist of course, as well as the goals, objectives, and time constraints of the therapy. The guy who did biofeedback with me would have stared at me as if I had grown three heads if I started talking to him about how I felt about talking to him. Hey wait! He did stare at me as if I had grown three heads! Then told me that I was hostile. While my real therapist sees it as part of therapy.
So an added caveat, I suppose. You need to know your therapist a bit before you can decide whether to talk about getting to know him.
Therapy is an odd business, isn't it?
Posted by gardenergirl on April 27, 2004, at 0:11:38
In reply to Re: Advice/help for sessions » B2chica, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2004, at 21:13:26
I think Dinah gave really good advice here. I second it, and have nothing really to add. I hope that in time you are able to feel more comfortable in the process, although not TOO comfortable. It's good to have incentive to get better and be done, if that is your game plan.
Take care!
gg
Posted by B2chica on April 27, 2004, at 14:11:34
In reply to Re: Advice/help for sessions » B2chica, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2004, at 21:13:26
Dinah
thanks for the laugh on the three heads, i really needed that.
And therapy is a very odd business indeed.Fallen4myT, i've sort of written up a list but i haven't brought it in, i think i will let him know about the existance of it-i think that itself will be a step for me. Thanks.
I'm just tearing up inside, especially now since these things are starting to surface, i'm ready to push them back down but since i'm in therapy i know now is the time to get them out.
i know i need to talk sooner rather than later but i just can't and i have told him that much and he has been great about that so far.Thank you So much for the great advice and hand-holding support, i Really Needed this.
B2c.
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