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Posted by alesta on December 8, 2005, at 11:30:58
i miss my brother. he died right after my 16th birthday in a (purposeful) bike accident. (he was seventeen when he died.) he was my whole family. his birthday is coming up. he was so great...i wonder if it will be the same when i meet him in the afterlife.:( but i think everyone probably loves everyone in the afterlife..so i wonder if our relationship will still be special or whatever....
he was so smart and we had lots of fun together. we used to tape record ourselves having silly conversations and doing verbal 'skits'.
i rarely ever talk about him to anyone. i don't know why. i guess i figure they won't want to hear about it, which they probably don't.:-) one of my last memories of him involves him telling me, "if i ever die, don't cry." i said "of course i would cry." (he also gave all his stuff away.) if i was older i would've been more forthcoming with expressing my feelings concerning his depression and his attempt at revealing his suicidal feelings...anyway, i don't hold guilt. just a vision of what could be...i wonder what he would have been like/up to now. i wonder if he can see me now...i have heard of ppl tape recording themselves talking to the dead, and hearing the voices of the deceased on tape...i am going to try that when i get the chance..
thanks for letting me share.:) happy birthday, chad. you are very special to me.
alesta:)
Posted by zenhussy on December 9, 2005, at 18:32:32
In reply to my brother, chad, posted by alesta on December 8, 2005, at 11:30:58
Happy Birthday Chad.....your sister loved you very much and her shared memories of you show us just how special you were to her. Please be paitent for Aimster to join you as we need her on this planet for a while longer.
Alesta,
ty for sharing with us about your brother. we're glad you've chosen to write about him here since you rarely talk about him to anyone.
tears for your loss and the pain but smiles for the beauty you're able to share from that pain.
__zh
Posted by sal0805 on December 10, 2005, at 11:14:28
In reply to my brother, chad, posted by alesta on December 8, 2005, at 11:30:58
Amy - this touched me so much. I am sorry for your loss yet encouraged that despite your pain, you have a healthy attitude.
Wishing Chad a happy birthday!!
Sabrina
Posted by alesta on December 13, 2005, at 9:37:42
In reply to Re: my brother, chad » alesta, posted by zenhussy on December 9, 2005, at 18:32:32
hi zen and sabri,:)
you guys are really sweet:) thank you so much. i honestly feel like i should think about him more than i do...i don't 'feel' him anymore...i guess i don't want to pine after a relationship that can no longer be...i hope that doesn't sound bad...just trying to live in the present and not make things harder for myself..but every once in a while i will hear a song or something (like "daniel" by elton john) and it will make me tear up...it's like there is a sadness there that i am not aware of or something. it's strange to me.
love to you guys...some of you ppl here are very special to me, too.:-) hugs to y'all..
love,:)
amyp.s. zen, it feels good to think that i might be serving a purpose here on the planet...i know we all are, but to hear it is kind of nice :)
Posted by LegWarmers on December 18, 2005, at 10:45:51
In reply to my brother, chad, posted by alesta on December 8, 2005, at 11:30:58
I usually avoid this board but something brought me here. Your post really touched me. You sound so strong. He is probably watching over you thinking the same about you.
(((alesta)))Thanks for sharing that.
Posted by alesta on December 19, 2005, at 8:41:20
In reply to Re: my brother, chad » alesta, posted by LegWarmers on December 18, 2005, at 10:45:51
> I usually avoid this board but something brought me here. Your post really touched me. You sound so strong. He is probably watching over you thinking the same about you.
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> (((alesta)))
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> Thanks for sharing that.awww, legwarmers, that is so sweet :)....thank you, sweetie.:-)
love,:)
alesta
Posted by Damos on January 3, 2006, at 15:48:15
In reply to my brother, chad, posted by alesta on December 8, 2005, at 11:30:58
Oh Amy, I've just read your post and can't stop crying. It was beautiful, just so beautiful. Thank you. Happy belated birthday Chad. I hope you know how precious your sister is to us.
Zen is so right, we do need you here with us. Please do whatever you need to to be happy in this life Amy, please.
(((((Amy)))))
Posted by alesta on January 4, 2006, at 13:05:30
In reply to Re: my brother, chad » alesta, posted by Damos on January 3, 2006, at 15:48:15
> Oh Amy, I've just read your post and can't stop crying. It was beautiful, just so beautiful. Thank you. Happy belated birthday Chad. I hope you know how precious your sister is to us.
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> Zen is so right, we do need you here with us. Please do whatever you need to to be happy in this life Amy, please.
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> (((((Amy)))))gosh, i am awestruck that my post could elicit such feeling...i love to inspire feeling in ppl..anyway, thank you so, so much damos for what you wrote.:-) i am really doing ok...just going through lots of changes right now...had a string of very bad days, and not all that talkative via the written word lately..although i feel fine today..
you are very kind damos.:) i had written a reply to you previous to this one, but the server went down and it was lost..so i hope my attempt at saying thank you isn't lost this time around.:_)
you find happiness, too, damos,:)
and take care of yourself,
amy :)
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