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Posted by woolav on September 19, 2004, at 11:26:40
Hello. I am very sad today. Over the summer I had bought my daughter 2 chihuahua's. I had planned not to get attached to them, because I already have a dog of my own. But, since my daughter started high school she realized she could not care for them -because of school work etc. So, I took care of them. Well, we realized it wasnt fair to the dogs to be crated during the day, because we both work. So, we had to sell them. The people came today. I am on AD but, for some reason it was a terrably traumatic experiance for me. I cried for hours and had to take a whole xanax even though I am on klonopin. I hope I can get through this. I cant believe I was so upset...
just wanted to tell someone about this...
Sandy :(
Posted by Klokka on September 19, 2004, at 20:16:28
In reply to my dogs are gone.........., posted by woolav on September 19, 2004, at 11:26:40
((Sandy)) My heart goes out to you. It's normal to be upset when losing animals regardless of the reason. Their presence can make such an amazing difference in the atmosphere of a home, even if it's not noticed until it's gone. I've found that animals can be there in a way people often aren't, if that makes any sense to you. Do you know if you'll be able to visit the dogs at their new home once in a while?
Even if you made a decision in the best interests of the dogs, it's normal to feel upset and grieve. I recently lost my cat, and I found that venting as necessary (Babble is great for that), doing little things to remind myself of him, and taking extra time to relax and do soothing things helped me get to a point where I could function through the pain. Your mileage may vary, of course, but I hope you find something to help get you through. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by Shar on September 20, 2004, at 0:56:20
In reply to Re: my dogs are gone.......... » woolav, posted by Klokka on September 19, 2004, at 20:16:28
I can't really add much to Klokka's post. It was very sensitive and understanding, and ... well, that's how it is when you're a 'dog person.'
I hope/wish/pray for all the best for your pooches, and it's a gift to THEM to give them to people who have the time/energy/resources/etc. to care for them if you are not in a position to do so. And, sometimes that happens through no fault of your own. I encourage you to believe that you did the right thing. Staying crated for most of the day is not (I bet) what you wanted for them.
It doesn't lessen the pain that much, but it's true.
So very, very sorry!
Shar
Posted by woolav on September 20, 2004, at 11:17:32
In reply to Re: my dogs are gone.........., posted by Shar on September 20, 2004, at 0:56:20
I really appreciate your thoughtfull words (both of you). They (new owners) said we could visit them if we wanted. So, that is a comfort. I am now focusing on my dog thats still here...I took her to petsmart after chloe and joe joe left and let her pick out some things she wanted...It made me feel better..
:)
sandy...
Posted by Klokka on September 20, 2004, at 21:18:15
In reply to Re: thank you, posted by woolav on September 20, 2004, at 11:17:32
I'm glad you'll be able to visit them, and that you had your dog for comfort. Going to PetSmart with her sounds like it was such a good thing to do - and I'm sure your dog didn't have any complaints. :) I hope the rest of the adjustment is filled with such comfort.
Posted by Shar on September 21, 2004, at 23:35:13
In reply to Re: thank you » woolav, posted by Klokka on September 20, 2004, at 21:18:15
You are so welcome! I would encourage you to go thru doggie training (if you haven't done so yet) with your dog/doggies and learn what you can about their instincts and behaviors. It took me a long time to figure out (with the help of some friends) that a lot of what goes on is instinctual in nature, and how we act and interact with our pups makes a big difference.
There is a book, oh, gee, something by the Monks of Skete about being your dog's best friend, that I would love for every dog owner to read. Because it talks about the nature of dogs, and how that has to interact with the nature of humans.
Oh, well, just a thought.
I hope all of your pups and YOU are ok!!
Shar
P.S. Watch out for those dog treats! Some are made with not good ingredients, and the 'rawhide' ones may expand in your pup's tummy to a most uncomfortable level. As gross as it sounds, 'hooves' are probably safer than anything, as far as I know. Like sterilized cow hooves. (I know, ick...)
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