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Posted by Shar on July 17, 2004, at 18:25:46
Sweet Gracie, of olden days, I still wonder what happened? I'm still trying to find out more information, and still trying to assimilate the fact with the feeling (you're gone but it feels like you aren't).
July 27, 2003 was the date. Why didn't you ... well, never mind.
Just know, please Gracie, that I loved you dearly even though we never met in person. And, it's an emptier world without you. And, so very, very sad. You are sorely missed.
xoxoxo
Shar
Posted by zenhussy on July 20, 2004, at 13:25:12
In reply to Gracie, posted by Shar on July 17, 2004, at 18:25:46
Shar,
Honey, you are in my thoughts and prayers always. I am so sorry for this pain you are feeling. Your love and friendship were very dear to Gracie I am certain.
You have a good soul Shar. ((((Shar))))
Please know many are thinking of you as well. Gracie is missed and her spirit will never be forgotten with friends like you.
Bless you Shar.
--zh~~~~~~~
Sweet Gracie, of olden days, I still wonder what happened? I'm still trying to find out more information, and still trying to assimilate the fact with the feeling (you're gone but it feels like you aren't).
July 27, 2003 was the date. Why didn't you ... well, never mind.
Just know, please Gracie, that I loved you dearly even though we never met in person. And, it's an emptier world without you. And, so very, very sad. You are sorely missed.
xoxoxo
Shar
Posted by Shar on July 21, 2004, at 13:02:37
In reply to Re: Gracie » Shar, posted by zenhussy on July 20, 2004, at 13:25:12
Thank you. I've missed you. A lot of missing going on these days. There is so much irreconcilable stuff that happens, which I guess is where faith comes in (usually, for better or worse, as an organized religion which has never worked for me).
Or maybe it's just one foot in front of the other, pulling a freight train behind you.
Love you, too, Z, and thank you for your sweet, sensitive nature.
xoxo
Shar
Posted by Shar on August 15, 2004, at 0:33:20
In reply to Gracie, posted by Shar on July 17, 2004, at 18:25:46
Your name came up again today (for me) when I went to Admin. God, how I wish you were still here.
I guess grief just never ends.
I miss you.
Shar
Posted by zenhussy on August 17, 2004, at 5:01:46
In reply to Re: Gracie, posted by Shar on August 15, 2004, at 0:33:20
> Your name came up again today (for me) when I went to Admin. God, how I wish you were still here.
> I guess grief just never ends.
> I miss you.
> SharHoney........grief doesn't last forever. I think you're doing a fine job of remembering a friend who was dear to you and yours. I never knew her closely other than reading her posts over time.
You, however, did know her closely in many ways and that hurts to have that taken from you. She was taken too. That part rips at me as this administration didn't seem bothered by concerned posters when Gracie did suddenly stop posting. This admin has gone to extreme measures by calling ISPs before for other posters so why Gracie wasn't afforded the same extreme measures ..............well....you know my anger.
I'm sorry that you still hurt so much. Would talking about her more help? The other night up where I've been staying we started talking about my friend's father who passed away a year ago this month. It was so foreign to me as I never really grieved my own father as I was so young. But to hear her husband and her mother(the widow) talking about her deceased pa was so beautiful. They had tears but the laughter we all had at remembering the stupid, silly, little things that he did was so special.
I think that grieving with others helps tremendously. I talk to my godkids about how great their grandpa was and how he used to enjoy this or that with them. It helps them remember grandpa and helps me as talking about someone who has passed on just never happened in my childhood.
So that's my grief lesson for today sweetpea.
Not sure I have any authority for posting about grief as I'm still rather new to many aspects of it but I'm a hussy and we know how hussies are!
xoxoxo to a good woman ((((((((Shar)))))))))
I'll gladly go on at length with you somewhere else. ; )
--zh
Posted by Shar on August 20, 2004, at 0:24:23
In reply to Re: Gracie » Shar, posted by zenhussy on August 17, 2004, at 5:01:46
Zen,
You are too sweet. I don't know why Gracie's death has affected me the way it has. We had just 'connected' in a significant way, and she was even talking about coming to my state to visit her sister, and then.....she was gone.I lost my dad at 14, and other friends to accidents and suicide, and uncles to illness and old age. But, Gracie. She was so damn sweet, funny, understanding, smart, artistic. I just can't let go yet....tho' I understand there is a NEW way to bypass grief! New, yes, new!!! And it's been a SECRET for 20 years (it's discussed in another thread on the grief board).
I feel the same heart-wrenching sadness about Gracie that I do about Scruffles. Gracie's name comes up and I just weep about the fact that she is no longer here, and I don't have much information about what happened, and I never got t meet her, and we never got our toenails painted purple. She was a candle in the darkness.
As you are.
xoxoxo
Shar
Posted by dazedandconfused on August 21, 2004, at 19:52:11
In reply to Re: Gracie » zenhussy, posted by Shar on August 20, 2004, at 0:24:23
Please forgive me if I am way out of line here. I read the thread becuase I wondered what had happened to Gracie. Pardon my ignorance, but did I miss something?
Feel free to ignore my post if it is upsetting. That is truly not my intent.
dazed
Posted by dazedandconfused on August 21, 2004, at 19:59:31
In reply to Re: Gracie, posted by dazedandconfused on August 21, 2004, at 19:52:11
So sorry,
I should have searched the archives before posting.
I too loved Gracie's posts...her wit came through so clearly in her writing. I am sad to hear this...dazed
Posted by Jubilee on October 3, 2004, at 20:35:51
In reply to Gracie, posted by Shar on July 17, 2004, at 18:25:46
Just found this site and I have had no one to talk to as I am disabled except for the world I am discovering at my fingertips, or I would go to a grief group. So here I am still hurting over and missing my baby of 27, who died of an accidental overdose and was suisidal and just hanging on to his ass. I loved him so and thou he is with my Lord having what life is really about ; I am missing him and wish I had found more of myself as a recovering Multiple personality before loosing him. He told me how hard it was for him having me as a mom last year. By the grace of my God, I wrote him a letter he loved that made him cry and he called me about it. What a way to go. I will be back, and any comfort welcome,please.Still hurting, Jubilee
Posted by Jubilee on October 4, 2004, at 21:21:00
In reply to Just lost my 27 year old son, posted by Jubilee on October 3, 2004, at 20:35:51
> Just found this site and I have had no one to talk to as I am disabled except for the world I am discovering at my fingertips, or I would go to a grief group. So here I am still hurting over and missing my baby of 27, who died of an accidental overdose and was suisidal and just hanging on to his ass. I loved him so and thou he is with my Lord having what life is really about ; I am missing him and wish I had found more of myself as a recovering Multiple personality before loosing him. He told me how hard it was for him having me as a mom last year. By the grace of my God, I wrote him a letter he loved that made him cry and he called me about it. What a way to go. I will be back, and any comfort welcome,please.Still hurting, Jubilee
I am adding to my post because I wanted to be on the same thread as you Gracie and join everybody and I still don't know my way around conserning posting things. Kind of trial and error. I ended up starting a new thread and I pray friends in my situation or that relate to loosing a child will find me under title"I'm 52 and lost my 27 year old Son" Need responce, homebound and lonely.
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