Posted by zenhussy on August 17, 2004, at 5:01:46
In reply to Re: Gracie, posted by Shar on August 15, 2004, at 0:33:20
> Your name came up again today (for me) when I went to Admin. God, how I wish you were still here.
> I guess grief just never ends.
> I miss you.
> SharHoney........grief doesn't last forever. I think you're doing a fine job of remembering a friend who was dear to you and yours. I never knew her closely other than reading her posts over time.
You, however, did know her closely in many ways and that hurts to have that taken from you. She was taken too. That part rips at me as this administration didn't seem bothered by concerned posters when Gracie did suddenly stop posting. This admin has gone to extreme measures by calling ISPs before for other posters so why Gracie wasn't afforded the same extreme measures ..............well....you know my anger.
I'm sorry that you still hurt so much. Would talking about her more help? The other night up where I've been staying we started talking about my friend's father who passed away a year ago this month. It was so foreign to me as I never really grieved my own father as I was so young. But to hear her husband and her mother(the widow) talking about her deceased pa was so beautiful. They had tears but the laughter we all had at remembering the stupid, silly, little things that he did was so special.
I think that grieving with others helps tremendously. I talk to my godkids about how great their grandpa was and how he used to enjoy this or that with them. It helps them remember grandpa and helps me as talking about someone who has passed on just never happened in my childhood.
So that's my grief lesson for today sweetpea.
Not sure I have any authority for posting about grief as I'm still rather new to many aspects of it but I'm a hussy and we know how hussies are!
xoxoxo to a good woman ((((((((Shar)))))))))
I'll gladly go on at length with you somewhere else. ; )
--zh
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