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Posted by Jai on October 31, 2003, at 8:38:39
My father died of a broken heart on Valentines Day 2001. He wished for my mother to be there with him. My mother was just across the street in the state mental hospital in a lock down ward. She was sinking into her manic/depressive (late onset) schizophrenic disorder. She kept saying dad was already dead. That would have hurt dad to hear so she never did visit him on his deathbed. He died alone and quite sad. This year on April Fools day my mother's funeral was held. She died surrounded by hospital staff who loved her. My sister and her daughter were racing to be there but got caught speeding and while they were being issued a ticket, my mother died. I am relieved it's all over. My mother was the hardest part of my life; she was cruel and unkind. She was always the emotional and intellectual center of our family. Her family was filled with mentally ill people. My father loved my mother beyond all reason. He was loyal and true. It was a drama that unfolded my entire life. I am relieved it's all over. Now I want to know what happened. It's kind of like looking back at a 100-car pile up on the highway and wondering what happened. How did I make it out alive? Mom always said they (the Docs) were making a documentary about her life. We used to joke, as children, that if we went to the windows we would see the camera crew running and hiding. The movie was titled "Peggy". It would be one hell of a movie.
Posted by jeff g on October 31, 2003, at 10:48:40
In reply to My mother and father, posted by Jai on October 31, 2003, at 8:38:39
wow, I'm sorry it had to be that way for you...
:(As I'm finding out in my youth, there is a lot of pain and tragedy in this world
Posted by Susan J on October 31, 2003, at 11:12:13
In reply to My mother and father, posted by Jai on October 31, 2003, at 8:38:39
Hi, Jai,
>>Now I want to know what happened. It's kind of like looking back at a 100-car pile up on the highway and wondering what happened. How did I make it out alive?
<<I'm so sorry that life's been so painful for you. And it's awful to watch someone suffer, be it your mother or father. Sometimes we are blessed with easy healthy childhoods. More often, we're not. This is your history, as hard as it is to look back on it. Take from it what makes you strong, and learn how to make yourself healthy in other aspects of your life. I really believe we can take tragedy and turn it into strength and happiness. The journey's just harder for some than others.
Thinking of you,
Susan
Posted by Jai on October 31, 2003, at 17:17:50
In reply to Re: My mother and father » Jai, posted by Susan J on October 31, 2003, at 11:12:13
Thank you both for your kind words.
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