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Posted by Elle2021 on October 28, 2003, at 3:24:14
I don't even know how to start this message, but I feel like I need to vent and get my feelings out. Tonight I just found my cat, he had been hit by a car. I found him helpless already dead on the side of the road. I feel so devastated. I feel like I'm going to fall apart. I'm already suffering from depression and this has just made things 10x worse. I miss him so much, it doesn't even feel real yet, feels like a nightmare. He meant so much to me, I loved him with all my heart. I wish he wasn't dead. I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with this, somebody please help me. Any advice will be really helpful. I want him back, I want to go to feed him and to have him come running to his dish excited about being pet. But I know it won't happen.
Love, Elle
Posted by Sebastian on October 28, 2003, at 12:21:17
In reply to Beloved Cat Died, posted by Elle2021 on October 28, 2003, at 3:24:14
Get a new cat! Eventualy you will grow to love that one.
Posted by Elle2021 on October 28, 2003, at 17:02:19
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died, posted by Sebastian on October 28, 2003, at 12:21:17
I already have other cats, several actually. And, I have adopted (or at least started feeding) every stray cat (about 5) that comes into my yard. I know this might not be the best coping method, and could get expensive, but it's helping me to help them. Thanks for your response.
Elle> Get a new cat! Eventualy you will grow to love that one.
Posted by shar on October 29, 2003, at 20:35:19
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died » Sebastian, posted by Elle2021 on October 28, 2003, at 17:02:19
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your cat. I understand about the grief you can feel about a companion who has shared your life and is now gone.
Please visit this website if you want to have your beloved cat remembered in a Monday candlelight ceremony (you will have to put his or her name on the list) : http:/www.petloss.com
and it has a very nice story called the Rainbow Bridge on it.My sympathies are with you,
Shar
Posted by Elle2021 on October 30, 2003, at 2:44:19
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died » Elle2021, posted by shar on October 29, 2003, at 20:35:19
Shar,
Thank you so much for your response, it was very comforting. I fully intend to visit the site you recommended. I can't tell you how helpful you have been.
Love, Elle> I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your cat. I understand about the grief you can feel about a companion who has shared your life and is now gone.
>
> Please visit this website if you want to have your beloved cat remembered in a Monday candlelight ceremony (you will have to put his or her name on the list) : http:/www.petloss.com
> and it has a very nice story called the Rainbow Bridge on it.
>
> My sympathies are with you,
> Shar
Posted by Dinah on November 4, 2003, at 18:45:28
In reply to Beloved Cat Died, posted by Elle2021 on October 28, 2003, at 3:24:14
I'm really sorry for your loss. And a loss of a companion who is dear to you *is* a very real loss. My therapist is preparing me for my own by telling me not to try to short circuit the grief, or play it down, but to allow myself to grieve the loss it actually is.
Would you like to share some funny/sweet stories about your cat? I went to a pet loss seminar once and doing things like that really helped.
Oh, and check with your SPCA in your area. They might offer some, and it really does help to be with others who understand how you feel. I don't think I started to heal from the loss of a beloved dog until I went to one of those.
Posted by Snowie on November 5, 2003, at 19:56:27
In reply to Beloved Cat Died, posted by Elle2021 on October 28, 2003, at 3:24:14
Elle,
I am SO sorry about the loss of your beloved kitty. I do understand because in 1993 I lost 2 cats -- one sweet male to cancer, and less than 2 months later I lost my little girl who was killed by a dog in her own yard. I learned a terribly painful lesson about keeping the gate closed. I tried to find grief counseling of any kind, but no one could help me. I think they thought I was a little nuts to even inquire since it was *only* a cat, but they didn't understand that they were my babies, and the incredible depth of my grief. Not to in any way diminish the loss of my two cats (nor your own sweet kitty), but the following year someone found a baby cat who was abandoned and starving. I still had two other cats that I loved, but I took in the new kitty and he became the true love of my life. After 9 years he still is the love of my life. I have 3 cats now, two guys, and a beautiful old lady, and I love all 3 dearly, but I'll always have a special love for the one who came after.
I do understand what you're going through, and although you'll never forget him, you will love again. I'm crying now, so I'll stop writing because my heart is breaking.
Love and best wishes,
Snowie
> I don't even know how to start this message, but I feel like I need to vent and get my feelings out. Tonight I just found my cat, he had been hit by a car. I found him helpless already dead on the side of the road. I feel so devastated. I feel like I'm going to fall apart. I'm already suffering from depression and this has just made things 10x worse. I miss him so much, it doesn't even feel real yet, feels like a nightmare. He meant so much to me, I loved him with all my heart. I wish he wasn't dead. I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with this, somebody please help me. Any advice will be really helpful. I want him back, I want to go to feed him and to have him come running to his dish excited about being pet. But I know it won't happen.
> Love, Elle
Posted by Elle2021 on November 6, 2003, at 6:10:22
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died » Elle2021, posted by Dinah on November 4, 2003, at 18:45:28
> Would you like to share some funny/sweet stories about your cat?
Yes, I'll share some things about him. His name was Bianca (even though thats a girls name and he was a boy). Anytime I was sick, he would always be concerned with me, and lay with me in bed until I felt well again. He loved to play with the rug, and would always tear it up! He had the most pinkest nose I have ever seen on a cat. Just the prettiest one. He loved to sit with me while I would type messages on pb. I miss him now, as I sit here and write this. He's buried in the back yard inside a blanket that he liked. I guess the only thing really comforting is to be able to know what happened to him. I had a cat a year ago that disappeared, never found her. That really ripped my heart out. Some people just don't understand that for some people, pets are children. Mine are. Thank you so much for your comforting words, you have been very sweet.
Love, Elle
Posted by Elle2021 on November 6, 2003, at 6:14:47
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died » Elle2021, posted by Snowie on November 5, 2003, at 19:56:27
Snowie,
Thanks so much for the kind words and for sharing your stories with me. They were very comforting, especially to know that I am not the only one who gets very attatched to their pets. For me, they aren't just pets, they are my children. I really do love them like I imagine mothers love human babies. Fortunately, I have some video tapes of the one I just lost. I am currently looking for them (have been misplaced) so I can look back on happier times. I just wish that it hadn't happened, wish there was something I could have done to prevent it. But, I know there wasn't a thing. I love him so much, and always will. His absence leaves a hole inside me. I'm tearing up now, so I must stop. But thank you for your support.
Love, Elle
Posted by Elle2021 on November 6, 2003, at 6:16:02
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died, posted by Elle2021 on November 6, 2003, at 6:14:47
Posted by Snowie on November 6, 2003, at 19:38:08
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died » Dinah, posted by Elle2021 on November 6, 2003, at 6:10:22
Elle,
I'm glad you have your wonderful memories of sweet Bianca, and that was a very thoughtful question, Dinah. You'll never forget him, even though it may be somewhat painful to remember. I have my memories and I smile and then I sometimes cry. But I'd rather cry than to never have known them.
Snowie
> > Would you like to share some funny/sweet stories about your cat?
>
> Yes, I'll share some things about him. His name was Bianca (even though thats a girls name and he was a boy). Anytime I was sick, he would always be concerned with me, and lay with me in bed until I felt well again. He loved to play with the rug, and would always tear it up! He had the most pinkest nose I have ever seen on a cat. Just the prettiest one. He loved to sit with me while I would type messages on pb. I miss him now, as I sit here and write this. He's buried in the back yard inside a blanket that he liked. I guess the only thing really comforting is to be able to know what happened to him. I had a cat a year ago that disappeared, never found her. That really ripped my heart out. Some people just don't understand that for some people, pets are children. Mine are. Thank you so much for your comforting words, you have been very sweet.
> Love, Elle
Posted by memma on November 6, 2003, at 19:47:35
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died, posted by Elle2021 on November 6, 2003, at 6:14:47
Dear Elle,
I'm very sorry for your loss. I do agree with you, pets definitely are more than companions. A pet can be your baby, your confident, your best friend. Only truly wonderful people treat their pets well enough to experience that sort of special bond with them, and I'm sure your kitty knew he had an exceptional mommy.
A book that helped me once: "Goodbye, Friend: Healing Wisdom for Anyone Who Has Ever Lost a Pet" by Gary Kowalski.
love, memma
Posted by Snowie on November 6, 2003, at 20:11:52
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died, posted by Elle2021 on November 6, 2003, at 6:14:47
Elle,
The words just came out, and although I hate to cry, your post had me in tears. You're definitely not alone. I never had children, so my cats are my kids. I wish I had pictures or videos of all my babies, but I don't, and I envy you that. I will get a video camera and start taking pictures because they won't be with me forever, and the thought of that is not good.
Please know that I am so sorry that you lost your kitty. Life just isn't fair sometimes.
Snowie
> Snowie,
> Thanks so much for the kind words and for sharing your stories with me. They were very comforting, especially to know that I am not the only one who gets very attatched to their pets. For me, they aren't just pets, they are my children. I really do love them like I imagine mothers love human babies. Fortunately, I have some video tapes of the one I just lost. I am currently looking for them (have been misplaced) so I can look back on happier times. I just wish that it hadn't happened, wish there was something I could have done to prevent it. But, I know there wasn't a thing. I love him so much, and always will. His absence leaves a hole inside me. I'm tearing up now, so I must stop. But thank you for your support.
> Love, Elle
Posted by Elle2021 on November 7, 2003, at 8:29:52
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died » Elle2021, posted by Snowie on November 6, 2003, at 20:11:52
Snowie,
I'm so sorry to have made you cry! I do most certainly encourage you to make video tapes of your kitties. That way, we can always put it on and remember how sweet they were and it just brings back all those good feelings and memories. It really hurts to lose a pet, we both know that. But it's so wonderful that we can all comfort eachother during times of loss. I hope your feeling better now.
Love, Elle
Posted by Elle2021 on November 7, 2003, at 8:32:19
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died, posted by memma on November 6, 2003, at 19:47:35
Thank you Memma for your thoughtful words. I do hope that my baby knew he had a loving mommie. I wish I could bring him back. I will definitely check out the book you suggested. I'm glad that other people realize the value of animals. :) God bless you.
Love, Elle
Posted by Dinah on November 8, 2003, at 14:36:48
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died » Dinah, posted by Elle2021 on November 6, 2003, at 6:10:22
> > Would you like to share some funny/sweet stories about your cat?
>
> Yes, I'll share some things about him. His name was Bianca (even though thats a girls name and he was a boy). Anytime I was sick, he would always be concerned with me, and lay with me in bed until I felt well again. He loved to play with the rug, and would always tear it up! He had the most pinkest nose I have ever seen on a cat. Just the prettiest one. He loved to sit with me while I would type messages on pb. I miss him now, as I sit here and write this. He's buried in the back yard inside a blanket that he liked. I guess the only thing really comforting is to be able to know what happened to him. I had a cat a year ago that disappeared, never found her. That really ripped my heart out. Some people just don't understand that for some people, pets are children. Mine are. Thank you so much for your comforting words, you have been very sweet.
> Love, ElleBianca sounds like a sweetie of a cat, who had a terrific life knowing he was well loved. I love the way they take care of us when we're sick. :) And I'll bet you never forget that pink nose. Fifteen years after my little beloved dog died, I can still remember her little face with the white band around her nose. I use it as my focal point in meditation.
I do hope you find that video tape. Videos and pictures can be such a comfort. I put my video tape somewhere very safe. Waaaahhhh!!!! Now I can't find years of doggy companions. I hope you have better luck.
Posted by Elle2021 on November 9, 2003, at 5:41:09
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died, posted by Dinah on November 8, 2003, at 14:36:48
Posted by panic_attack on December 7, 2003, at 9:47:17
In reply to Re: Beloved Cat Died, posted by Dinah on November 8, 2003, at 14:36:48
I love my cat so much, it will kill me when he passes on. I have had many cats that have disapeared and it ripped me apart. I guess it was better that way, rather then finding them dead. But not knowing what happened to them, if they are cold and hungry :(
I had one cat, Tigger, who I loved dearly. This cat would play ball with me. I would throw a baseball to him and he would actually jump in the air and catch it. He slept on my bed everynight... he hated when I was on the computer. He would meow and meow and was so jeaolous that my attention was on something else but him. Oh i loved him . One morning on my way to school, I found him dead next to a fire hydrant. It was 6 30 am and I started screaming and yelling. All the school kids looked at me and laughed. Im an only child and this cat was my life. I will never forget that pain of losing my cat. I love animals. I had to give away one of my cats yesterday cuz we are moving. I am so depressed right now. She was so attached to me. She must miss me like crazy right now.
I know your pain Elle and my sympathy is with you.
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