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Posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2002, at 3:05:30
[Posted by Shar on March 1, 2002, at 14:37:31
In reply to http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20020223/msgs/19066.html]
> or did I just forget to confirm it?
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> It was in this thread, and it was about Old School's comment that women like to talk about themselves more than men do, and he was living up to his name (Old School=old fashioned=idea that, in general, women self-disclose more than men).
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> If you did, was there a reason or were you just having a bad day? I can't think of anything about it that was not civil!
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> Shar
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2002, at 3:07:12
In reply to did you DELETE a post of mine...??? « Shar, posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2002, at 3:05:30
[Posted by kiddo on March 1, 2002, at 15:12:22]
> I read that post, however, I don't remember which thread it was in...
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2002, at 3:08:30
In reply to did you DELETE a post of mine...??? « Shar, posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2002, at 3:05:30
[Posted by Dinah on March 2, 2002, at 9:06:10]
> Shar,
> If it helps any, I think the problem happened when Dr. Bob combined two threads. I had accidentally started a new thread that belonged in this one and Dr. Bob kindly combined them.
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> He did this once before in a thread I participated in, and my post was missing when it was all over. Since my post had embarassed me, I was quite glad about it.
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> But I'm guessing that if it did happen, it was an accident.
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2002, at 3:11:40
In reply to did you DELETE a post of mine...??? « Shar, posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2002, at 3:05:30
> or did I just forget to confirm it?
I have to admit, I deleted it. In retrospect, though, I should've said something, sorry!
> it was about Old School's comment that women like to talk about themselves more than men do, and he was living up to his name (Old School=old fashioned=idea that, in general, women self-disclose more than men).
My thinking was, things had already been stirred up enough on that thread...
Bob
Posted by Dinah on March 3, 2002, at 3:51:30
In reply to Re: did you DELETE a post of mine...??? « Dinah, posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2002, at 3:08:30
> [Posted by Dinah on March 2, 2002, at 9:06:10]
>
> > Shar,
> > If it helps any, I think the problem happened when Dr. Bob combined two threads. I had accidentally started a new thread that belonged in this one and Dr. Bob kindly combined them.
> >
> > He did this once before in a thread I participated in, and my post was missing when it was all over. Since my post had embarassed me, I was quite glad about it.
> >
> > But I'm guessing that if it did happen, it was an accident.Well, in that case, Dr. Bob, you have my heartfelt thanks for deleting that long ago post. It had occasionally occurred to me that it had been done out of kindness, but I wasn't sure you did that sort of thing under your research protocol.
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2002, at 4:34:39
In reply to Re: did you DELETE a post of mine...??? « Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on March 3, 2002, at 3:51:30
> > > If it helps any, I think the problem happened when Dr. Bob combined two threads.
> > >
> > > He did this once before in a thread I participated in, and my post was missing when it was all over. Since my post had embarassed me, I was quite glad about it.
> > >
> > > But I'm guessing that if it did happen, it was an accident.
>
> Well, in that case, Dr. Bob, you have my heartfelt thanks for deleting that long ago post. It had occasionally occurred to me that it had been done out of kindness, but I wasn't sure you did that sort of thing under your research protocol.In truth, I don't like to delete posts, so I'm not sure I should take credit for that. Probably either I or the program made a mistake. :-)
Bob
Posted by Shar on March 3, 2002, at 21:58:19
In reply to Re: did you DELETE a post of mine...???, posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2002, at 4:34:39
Wow, I am very, very surprised that you deleted a post because things had been 'stirred up enough' on the thread. Hmmm. That is really crossing the boundary between being a watchdog and determining the direction or outcome you want in a situation.
When you start deleting posts based on content that you speculate might 'stir things up' even more, it isn't too far a reach to think about you deleting posts for other seemingly innocuous reasons, or even because you don't like the opinion expressed--or the opiner!
And, if you are deleting posts, this board is no longer spontaneous, and you'd need to talk about that if you publish any more research based on the Babbles.
My feathers have gotten ruffled over this but I speculate I'll live. Still think it is a bad idea to do that.
Shar
Posted by ST on March 4, 2002, at 2:22:01
In reply to Deleting my post was double-plus ungood, posted by Shar on March 3, 2002, at 21:58:19
Shar,
I'm pretty surprised. It stops being an experiment or research and becomes steered in a contrived direction. Very weird indeed. No offense, Dr. Bob. I would imagine that a truly insightful and honest research project would go untampered. (Blocking people for civility issues aside)
Sarah> Wow, I am very, very surprised that you deleted a post because things had been 'stirred up enough' on the thread. Hmmm. That is really crossing the boundary between being a watchdog and determining the direction or outcome you want in a situation.
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> When you start deleting posts based on content that you speculate might 'stir things up' even more, it isn't too far a reach to think about you deleting posts for other seemingly innocuous reasons, or even because you don't like the opinion expressed--or the opiner!
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> And, if you are deleting posts, this board is no longer spontaneous, and you'd need to talk about that if you publish any more research based on the Babbles.
>
> My feathers have gotten ruffled over this but I speculate I'll live. Still think it is a bad idea to do that.
>
> Shar
Posted by trouble on March 4, 2002, at 4:47:41
In reply to Shar, I agree. I'm rather shocked., posted by ST on March 4, 2002, at 2:22:01
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 4, 2002, at 9:16:44
In reply to Deleting my post was double-plus ungood, posted by Shar on March 3, 2002, at 21:58:19
> Wow, I am very, very surprised that you deleted a post because things had been 'stirred up enough' on the thread. Hmmm. That is really crossing the boundary between being a watchdog and determining the direction or outcome you want in a situation.
Well, like I said, I really hate to do it. But having a watchdog does itself influence the outcome, it's not either-or. Would it have been better just to have asked you to "please be civil"?
> When you start deleting posts based on content that you speculate might 'stir things up' even more, it isn't too far a reach to think about you deleting posts for other seemingly innocuous reasons, or even because you don't like the opinion expressed--or the opiner!
I see what you're saying, it could be a slippery slope...
> And, if you are deleting posts, this board is no longer spontaneous, and you'd need to talk about that if you publish any more research based on the Babbles.
True enough.
> My feathers have gotten ruffled over this but I speculate I'll live. Still think it is a bad idea to do that.
> SharMaybe it's not the best idea. I'll try to think it through more carefully next time. Thanks for your feedback.
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> It stops being an experiment or research and becomes steered in a contrived direction... I would imagine that a truly insightful and honest research project would go untampered. (Blocking people for civility issues aside)
> SarahMaybe think of it as research on a steering mechanism? Blocking people for civility reasons is in fact already a form of "tampering"...
Bob
Posted by Zo on March 4, 2002, at 17:37:01
In reply to Re: Deleting my post was double-plus ungood, posted by Dr. Bob on March 4, 2002, at 9:16:44
> Maybe it's not the best idea. I'll try to think it through more carefully next time. Thanks for your feedback.
>
> BobThis is a normal pdoc? I don't thiiiink so.
Zo
Posted by Shar on March 10, 2002, at 15:11:27
In reply to Re: See?, posted by Zo on March 4, 2002, at 17:37:01
> > Maybe it's not the best idea. I'll try to think it through more carefully next time. Thanks for your feedback.
> >
> > Bob
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> This is a normal pdoc? I don't thiiiink so.
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> ZoZo,
I think the way you stand up for dad...er, I mean Dr. Bob, is sweet. I love him, too.There could be a lesson here, though, about a relationship in which A states something she didn't like about what B did; and B considers it and responds in a mature, thoughtful way. I think that is a good way to handle potential disagreements in a relationship.
Trust me, if Dr. Bob had disagreed with me, he would have said so succinctly and directly. And, I might have been disappointed that we disagreed, but that is how it goes sometimes.
Handling differences, especially differences of opinions, is a big part of a successful relationship. And here at admin we get lots of good examples of Bob doing that well. He may agree, disagree, or even change his mind after reading something, and he says so. That is great stuff.
Shar
Posted by Zo on March 11, 2002, at 3:18:57
In reply to Re: See? » Zo, posted by Shar on March 10, 2002, at 15:11:27
Shar, cool post, and we are in agreement about DB. . .I was just making a play on how eerily serene he can seem.
Zo
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