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Posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 18:17:31
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by susielalala on March 21, 2004, at 17:56:03
I won't be doing anything. I'll leave you all alone now. I'm sorry for getting you all so worked up. Don't worry.
Hugs,
Sandy
Posted by susielalala on March 21, 2004, at 18:45:21
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » susielalala, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 18:17:31
Please don't leave us alone!!! We are here for you. Please don't go away. We are not worked up. We are all concerned for you. Please stay and talk to us.
Posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 20:57:38
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:21:18
Sandy,
If we all told you our stories, then you would realize why we are reaching out to you. WE HAVE BEEN THERE!!!
I have never shared my story in full yet, but I will for you. I will just hit the highlights (and lowlights). I grew up in poverty, neglected and borderline abused, with depression/anxiety/OCD. But I was blessed with intellect. I graduated as senior class valedictorian, worked my way through college and graduated Summa Cum Laude with a degree in mechanical engineering. I had it all, a great career, a good marriage, two lovely children, a nice house, etc. ...and depression/anxiety/OCD. Yadda, yadda, yadda,... couldn't even remember my middle name, no job, bills, stressed marriage, couldn't take care of myself or my children, financial and emotional burden to all, and no hope of anything changing. Sound familiar?
But the Lord put people around me to help me. I swallowed my pride and leaned on them, and they pulled me through. And, as you read in my testimony, the day is bright again. Yes, some of yesterday's doors have shut, but I am telling you as sure as I live and breath, the Lord can open up new doors if you just hold on and look to Him. Suddenly you will find that you have hope and a bright future again, and that life is truly good! It is never too late!
We love you,
Simus
Posted by wantinfo on March 21, 2004, at 21:12:09
In reply to RE: lexy » wantinfo, posted by sexylexy on March 20, 2004, at 16:23:26
hey lexy! im so sorry you went through that crap but it sounds like you handled it perfectly!
how long were you on the 15 before going to 20? im on the 15 now for almost 2 weeks and think i feel a bit better...the dizziness is going away...but i still dont feel as good as id like to. i AM expecting my time of the month this week though so we will see ;)
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:28:43
In reply to Please help!!!, posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 23:22:30
Okay. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:30:51
In reply to Update on Med Change, posted by Simus on March 20, 2004, at 23:35:54
Simus, I am so excited for you. Your post is full of hope and happiness. You deserve to feel better and I know that you have struggled for quite awhile. Congrats to you and continued success. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:35:15
In reply to RE: magdalena » Mrs. C, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 0:35:45
Hi, I am doing very well tonight. Thanks for asking. I have been suffering from headaches most of my life. They usually come about when the weather is changing. I have been having them alot lately. I do not believe that they are related to lexapro at all. I hope that your subside soon. If they are from Lex, they should go away soon. Most of my side effects lasted about 2-3 weeks. You can probably expect to feel better in a few more weeks. Hang in there. 2 weeks is not long enough for Lex to take effect. Remember, you're changin brain chemistry! You will begin to see gradual changes very soon. Hang in there. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:37:14
In reply to Re: Magdalena, posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 4:18:06
Hey guys, I just had to put my 2 cents in. I am from the Buffalo area. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:44:12
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 9:19:32
Hey Sandy, I was going to try to find you later tonight after I read all the posts. I am so glad that you decided to join our board. There are so many wonderful caring people here and we have become like a little family. I haven't read your post that got Simus so concerned. Are you up to filling me in? I am guessing that you are close to giving up and feeling hopeless. If I am right about this, I would like you to know that you need to hang on. Give the meds some time to work. You are just experiencing a brain chemistry problem that gets in the way of your ability to cope. It sucks! But it isn't hopeless. We will help you get through to the other side if you are willing. Bye for now. Mrs. C
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 21:46:04
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » SandyWeb, posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 20:57:38
Well said Simus...well said...Your great and glad you are feeling better...Mystic
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:48:54
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 11:57:40
Okay Sandy I have just gotten to some posts where you tell more about yourself. I am also a 38 year old woman with 2 children. Mine are girls. I have never felt how you are feeling so I won't pretend that I understand. But I do know that life is precious and whatever has gotten you to this place where you are now is not your fault or your children's. You need to seek help NOW! You have an entire life to look forward to and I want to know why you think it is not worth living? Please respond. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:51:19
In reply to Re: Magdalena, posted by Magdalena on March 21, 2004, at 12:02:21
Magdelena, I lived in Ft.Lauderdale for 15 years before moving back to upstate NY. I will never ever live anywhere else again. Although the ocean is beautiful and the weather is warm, there is no place like home. We live in a wonderful area of the country and you really can't appreciate that until you have lived some place else. I hope some day you have the opportunity to find that out for yourself. Mrs. C
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 21:52:00
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:48:54
Well said to Sandy Mrs C.....feel like we have to get through to her and not sure she will be back on to read them..but feel we have tried to give support and she knows we are here for her...Glad that you are feeling soo good as I said in an earlier post...Take care Mystic
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:55:27
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » mystic, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:05:54
Sandy, what happened to you to make you feel this way? Did it also involve your daughter? Sounds like what you are planning to do will only make things worse for her. Please reconsider. Where are you? I have never felt so frightened for anyone before in my entire life! Please respond. Mrs. C
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 21:56:52
In reply to Re: Please help!!!, posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 21:55:27
I'm with ya Mrs C....I freeking here myself and have been all afternoon..worried sick...not sure what to do...helpless and dont like this feeling....Mystic
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 22:05:02
In reply to RE: Mrs C., posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 21:56:52
Mystic, thank God you are with me. How long has this been going on. I just started checking posts about 1/2 hour ago and found all of this happening. Did you read her post that Simus was concerned about. I did not get a chance to go there. Is she thinking about ending her life?! That's what it sounds like to me. I hope that we are wrong.
I'm also worried now that we scared her away. I don't want her to feel responsible for getting us upset. I hope she comes back to the board. We could be just what she needs.
Mrs. C
Posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 22:07:59
In reply to RE: Mrs C., posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 21:56:52
Thank you all. You are great people. Please remember Sandy in your prayers. May God's love engulf her and bring peace and hope to her situation.
Love,
Simus
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 22:08:56
In reply to RE: Mystic, posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 22:05:02
Mrs C...we are ill equipt to handle this and we did not scare her away all we did was try to help and that is all we ever try to do...This happened earlier today and has been most of the day when I have checked on...Some of the posts are evasive I'm really not sure what to think...I just know that we tried to help and not sure if it did but we did the best that we could...Mrs C...we are on here to help people and to feel better ourselves and that is the best that we can do...We listen...we respond and we care and that is all anyone could ask for or hope for ....Please dont feel badly this will be fine and hopefully she will come back if she feels she needs help...Go to bed and get some sleep and Hope to catch up to you tomorrow...Have a great day >>>A friend Mystic
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 22:12:24
In reply to RE: Mrs C.., posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 22:08:56
Thanks Mystic, you are right. But I will go to bed with a sick feeling in my stomach for this woman who sounds so alone. I will be praying for her and for all of us. Talk to you tomorrow. Mrs. C
Posted by mystic on March 21, 2004, at 22:13:01
In reply to One more request, posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 22:07:59
We are all praying...As we do every night for all our posting friends...At least I know I do..and will say an extra prayer for Sandy...Thanks Simus..take care of yourself also and get some sleep....Mystic
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 22:13:46
In reply to One more request, posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 22:07:59
Simus, I have been brought to tears by all of this. I will be praying for Sandy and for all of us. Thanks for listening and for being there for us all. Mrs. C
Posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 22:24:01
In reply to Re: One more request, posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 22:13:46
Mrs. C,
[[[[hug]]]] You have to just lay it at the Lord's feet now and get some rest. We aren't equipped to carry the burden, but He is. It is possible that our only part in this is to pray for her. Or, perhaps she will come back for help and friendship. Now, I speak peaceful rest over your mind and body, in Jesus' name.
Love,
Simus
Posted by Mrs. C on March 21, 2004, at 22:28:07
In reply to Re: One more request » Mrs. C, posted by Simus on March 21, 2004, at 22:24:01
Thank you Simus. I was just about to go to bed and something told me to check the board one more time. I found your latest post. You have deeply touched me and I will try to remember your words as I lay in bed tonight. Talk to you tomorrow. Mrs. C
Posted by sexylexy on March 21, 2004, at 23:09:58
In reply to RE: lexy » sexylexy, posted by wantinfo on March 21, 2004, at 21:12:09
Hola,
I was on 15 for two weeks and saw a big differnce about the end of my second week. That is also when the side effects seemed to be going away as well, I started 20mg about two and a half weeks and the side effects are about the same when moving up to 15 not bad but enough to be a slight nusance. I have not noticed a difference yet but am sure I will soon enough! Good to know your making progress, you sound like a new person compared to some of your older postings! Congrats!!!
God Bless,
Lexy
Posted by sexylexy on March 21, 2004, at 23:44:16
In reply to Re: Please help!!! » Simus, posted by SandyWeb on March 21, 2004, at 17:21:18
Hey Sandy,
Your note sounded very confused to me. You have some affairs you would like to set in order, so does this mean you are planning on ending your life?
Believe me, even though you believe you are not depressed, you are empty and this is worse than depression. You seem to just not care anymore. You may feel like people would be better off if you were not in their lives anymore, so you could stop being such a burden to others. When I was deep and empty as yourself I felt the same way, if I ended my life, my parents would not have to deal with my problems, my boyfriend could move on and find a girl worth being with. Now that I am begining to feel better again, I know that had I harmed myself, I would have effected so many lives. My parents would be destroyed, my boyfriend and friends would never forgive themselves. Even though I would have been dead, I would have ruined so many lives and taken the easy way out for myself.
When you feel this way, everything is so empty and grey. You just want to disapear just blend in until you fade all together. There are so many of us on this board who have faced this demon. We are all in the battle to fight in and many of us are winning.
The major part is to not give into your feelings of worthlessness, guilt and broken spirit. If you are having enough thought to put some affairs in order, you are seriously condidering putting an end to your life. Sandy, you should call your parents and let them know. If you feel like you are going to make an attempt call 911. If need be drive to the nearest ER and they will check you in and get you in touch with people who can make it better.
Sandy, if you have stopped living for yourself, which I understand, at least live for your child. Killing yourself would put her though what you are going though right now but worse. She will spend the rest of her life asking herself what she did that made you do this, did she not love you enough, did you not love her enough. Do not allow these thoughts and feelings associated with your current state of mind rule you. Do not give it the satifaction of ruining you or the ones you love.
I you are a spiritual person I suggest you pray that you will get though this. It will help you sort you thoughts and come into a better place. I am praying for you tonight and wishing you a brighter day tomorrow.
The Lord Bless You and Keep You,
Lexy
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